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I miss my hearing. I miss music. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/goodoffmychest

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I got a COVID infection a while ago that permanently disabled me pretty bad. Bedridden, unable to move much, etc.

The thing that really helped me was relaxing and listening to music. That’s what I spent my days doing as I couldn’t do much else. I became a real music nerd and just loved the bliss of hearing music.

A little later (two years). I got another COVID infection — I was taking very strong precautions, and couldn’t see anyone. It turns out I got it from my doctor. Anyways, this infection caused some brain damage which has caused me to mostly loose the ability to hear. And now I’m still mostly motionless alone in bed, but I haven’t even got the comfort of sound or music. Just a mostly silent (tinnitus filled) world.

I’m so scared of getting covid again. But mostly I miss the world and my old life. Being stuck alone in bed with only the internet for company sucks. People tend to be arseholes online. I can’t help but feel I got “natural selectioned”. Me and my wife were planning on having kids soon. Now I barely see her and I’m going to slowly die in a nursing home. There are specific genetic vulnerabilities to illnesses, and natural selection works with them (see what Europeans coming to America did). And I got fucked here. COVID was my end.

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[–] wreckedcarzz 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

So your solution is 'fuck trying to be helpful, they're finished, don't even bother'? As someone who is in a similar situation to OP, kindly eat shit and die. I will happily look into ways to regain my mobility, cognitive sharpness, and retrain my brain to overcome my loses, and I'm sure as fuck others would as well. It's fucking awful to be effectively chained to a bed or chair, forced to watch your life fade away, unable to do anything. I'm always up for trying new medical tech and therapy methods, and I go back to therapy every couple years to try again, and try new ideas.

To have your state of mind is awful for yourself, but is nothing short of disgusting, hurtful, and distressing for others. Truly, fuck you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

You're making a ton of assumptions here. Go ahead and be angry. You're so righteous, you can't even see what an asshole you're being to OP.

Do you really think they spent two years confined to bed, stuck online, without learning about potential solutions to their struggle? They come here saying the internet is not a welcoming place, and you just reply with a canned "try this!" solution they probably heard of on month two. It's your arrogance that you think you can just come in here and save someone. What did you expect? "Oh thank goodness you came along to recommend that, I wasn't able to Google shit myself"? Notice how OP hasn't even replied to you??

And so ironic that in a thread where the whole point is loneliness from people being assholes online, you respond like such an asshole.

Who's the problem here, exactly?