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Two things for me… pomodoro method and the mantra “Don’t put it down. Put it away.” Pomodoro got me through college and made hyperfocusing on assignments seem like more of a choice. The mantra? It is part of my inner dialogue all the time lol. I tend to put things where ever and wouldn’t you know it? In a day my home is a mess. So once I heard the suggestion I took it to heart and it does actually really help me remember WHY to put things away. Because the “oh I will grab it and put it away later” is a lie.
Garbage in, garbage out. First come, first served is how I put it. Everything has a place and everything back in its place, I'm just renting it, gotta return the video to the store
I realised just after decades that some things that tend to fly around all the time over and over again have no defined place. My solution: There needs to be an all-default trunk. Old rubber bands, Covid tests, screws from an old laptop I'll totally reassemble one day, socks with holes that are not broken enough to throw away, ...
Also, recycling is nice in general, but in a cleaning frenzy, all garbage needs to go into the bag. If future-self wants to recycle, have fun with the bag in the basement.
It works!
I found that eschewing recycling/papers/cardboards and simply disposing rather than doing the dishes (theow everything away when it got really bad) to be super important. I need to focus on "Ends justifies the means" for specifically cleaning so I'll be rather uncharacteristically ruthless and dismissive of anything I can technically live without cuz I can't live in mess and clutter
Dishwasher is really crucial. I knew that and wanted one for 20 years, but, well, ADHD. Finally 2 years ago got my first 0-installation dish washer, one of those small ones where you can just pour the water in. When it broke, I got a small real one. Installation required a little more mental energy, but so worth it.
I'm currently shooting low, and one pomodoro unit per day already makes a productive day. So much better than nothing! I think of it like squid game: I got 50 minutes to study, then they shoot the ones with the least knowledge on the subject. That means no glance at the phone even when it makes a sound, no toilet breaks, no water breaks (water that is in direct reach may be used while one hand is free).
If I had done even 25 minutes per day after official education, I'd be such an expert 15 years later!
My current goal is to become an absolute unit within 8 years. My CV looks like one, but I'm not.