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[ā€“] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Iā€™m guessing itā€™s all too much to deal with and heā€™s shutting down? You can try a financial counsellor, some community centres have them free for low income earners

Edit: I donā€™t want to ask your area and canā€™t link google results on mobile but just search ā€˜financial counselling free victoriaā€™.

Iā€™m not sure what to do about him refusing to deal with it and the friction that results. Iā€™ve had a few people coming for me for help but refusing actual assistance and itā€™s a very difficult situation.

You could pick one reputable number (one off the Consumer Affairs site or the Salvos) and write it on a post it. Or call them sitting with him.

But if heā€™s shutting down or lashing out then all you can do is remember that heā€™s an adult and responsible for himself. And check whether his finances affect yours.

[ā€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thanks. His prior therapy people were for different things but I believe relevant. Heā€™s refusing to even look up the ā€˜offence numbers If itā€™s car stuff he didnā€™t own one then. Simple? W$onā€™t try.

[ā€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yeah I get the avoidance. But it does make it really tricky

Edit: thereā€™s resources

https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/fines-and-infringements

https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/other-support-fines-and-infringements

https://vic.finefixer.org.au/results/

But if heā€™s unwilling to engage or canā€™t cope then thereā€™s not much you can do but back off to protect yourself from his reactions.