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If you like romance in fiction, how do you like it? Realistic or Idealistic? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 4 months ago by NONE_dc to c/[email protected]

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While I was documenting myself to create a romantic work between two women, I made a little detour and read a Manga (Love Hurts, by Kiriko Nananan) that made me wonder if the idea I initially had for my story is too idealistic to the point of bordering on childish. It's just that the manga portrays interpersonal relationships in such a raw way (compared to what I've been consuming until then), that perhaps the impact it gave me was even greater than I expected.

I understand that there are those who prefer an escapist work, experiencing more of a dream than a one-on-one copy of real life. I also know that there are those who don't see much value in escapism and prefer art to function as a mirror of reality. I personally found myself somewhere in between.

What I would like to know is which side I should lean more towards in order to do the best work possible.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Not sure, since it's a sliding scale, but high idealism can end up being kind of problematic. See any number of creepy or patriarchal things that romcoms tend to promote. Since it's two women the risk of falling into that is reduced, though.