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If you like romance in fiction, how do you like it? Realistic or Idealistic? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 4 months ago by NONE_dc to c/[email protected]

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While I was documenting myself to create a romantic work between two women, I made a little detour and read a Manga (Love Hurts, by Kiriko Nananan) that made me wonder if the idea I initially had for my story is too idealistic to the point of bordering on childish. It's just that the manga portrays interpersonal relationships in such a raw way (compared to what I've been consuming until then), that perhaps the impact it gave me was even greater than I expected.

I understand that there are those who prefer an escapist work, experiencing more of a dream than a one-on-one copy of real life. I also know that there are those who don't see much value in escapism and prefer art to function as a mirror of reality. I personally found myself somewhere in between.

What I would like to know is which side I should lean more towards in order to do the best work possible.

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[–] Khanzarate 4 points 4 months ago

Another vote for "well-written". I have read both, and both are good if they're done well. Besides, I don't usually have the option when I find a book, the summaries rarely tell me and I'm not gonna dig through the middle of the book for the answer to this question.

What I care about is being able to connect with the characters. If I can connect to someone in a realistic relationship, great. If I can connect to someone and they get that idealist treatment, great. If I can connect to someone and it seems like a romance but it's abusive and the book becomes a realistic horror novel, that's also great, I'll feel the fear and desperation.

I never have wanted to read a book to have a specific experience, is my point. If your experience was well-written, it would be good.