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How do I not look like a hag (imgur.com)
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I get suggestions online like do my hair, makeup, etc but as a first time girl I really don’t know where to even start, so I end up doing nothing and looking like a hag and im tired of being treated like crap

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[–] Repelle 19 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

You have great hair. Most important thing to learn id say for makeup is eyes, you’d be amazed at the difference it can make. I’d recommend getting some pre glued falsies (ardell naked press on are an easy drug store/target buy) as they’re the easiest to apply and take off when you mess up, which you probably will your first time. Since you seem nervous, I’d use only the short and medium length lashes to start, they won’t be so obvious which could make you more self-conscious

You may be shocked by how much of a difference that can make by itself. Liner can make a big difference, too. If you have a steady hand id always recommend a liquid, nyx is a solid brand for cheap liquid liner.

[–] Repelle 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

I recommended liquid liner, but you’re young so I’m taking that back, i think it looks great, but young people aren’t doing that so much anymore. Using a dark shadow with a thin brush to make a soft line seems to be more common for young people now, and that’ll look great with falsies for you.

I, however, will continue use my liquid liner til death.

Line only the top, or even just the outside half of the top to start. In general you’ll want the liner to get thicker (or further away from the eye in the case of floating, but don’t start with that) as it moves to the outside.

Lots of people will just draw eyeliner around their whole eye when first applying and that very rarely works.

[–] Repelle 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Continuing on with this line of thought: one big advantage of liquid liner is once it sets, it has some great properties: it tends to last all day, be mostly waterproof, and if it does rub off it doesn’t run like mascara will.

Shadow is much less robust, it won’t last the same way. You’ll want to use a primer beforehand and a setting spray after for it to last. It won’t matter for experimenting, but once you get to a daily routine this will be a must.

Gel and pencil liners will usually land somewhere between the two. Softer and less robust than liquid, and sharper and more robust than shadow. I don’t use either, but my wife uses gels