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Chastising social missteps without trying to be malicious should be more widespread. I get the irony that what I'm asking for is itself a social misstep, but the paradox of tolerance is easily resolved if you just ignore it
We do better when we hold each other accountable, for the big and small things.
I meant it’s better to have assholes who help you as friends than people whose only good quality is politeness. Excessively polite people are suspicious in my eyes as it is easy to hide your true self behind nice words
Hiding yourself and the politeness of your speech are entirely separate. Anyone can be Polite and good, polite and bad, Rude and good, or rude and bad. Hell, you can use rude phrasing to make people feel comfortable with how crass you are, just to exploit them.
Intention is basically impossible to judge by tone and vocabulary used.
And yet people routinely associate politeness with being ‘good’. Hell women are/were teached to be polite to be seen as good and pure.
Fuck politeness, world is a fucking brutal place and it is already hard to tell friends or foes apart much less if they smile as they stab you in the back. Tell me to my face what you think of me and I will do the same. This is simple and good method, 100% accuracy instead of some fucking games.
In my experience it is more probable for a genuinely good person to come off as rude. They usually don’t care about masks or appearances, they have their set of rules they stick to and nothing to hide. People who play appearance games are inherently lying since first meeting meanwhile if they are honest and straightforward I will respect them.
Politeness is like a smokescreen you have to really put some serious effort to tell what kind of mfer is on the other side. Many times a racist or the like and then you are surprised oh but they were looking so polite and pure.
Worst are fucking Christians jeez how many times those ‘good’ and ‘pure’ cunts turned out to be a total menace I cannot count. Full of love and all that bullshit at the same time
Colour me fucking skeptical if someone presents as pure and polite after the age of 17. At that age you have already seen enough life to know how it all works