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[–] SamuraiBeandog 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If you're in a good relationship but they leave because they couldn't wait 4 years to get married, then you fucking dodged a bullet. Jesus fucking christ.

[–] Smoogs 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Someone willing to put up with your shit and commit to you is a bullet to be dodged? Mmmk…

[–] SamuraiBeandog 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I was with my wife for 10 years before I proposed. We have the best relationship of anyone we know. I know plenty of people who married after a couple of years and are fucking miserable.

[–] Smoogs 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

So you only count anecdotal evidence that ensures your paranoia about people and apply it to every situation. K.

[–] SamuraiBeandog 1 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Paranoia wtf? I've formed my opinions from my life experiences, are you trying to tell me you've done peer reviewed research to decide what makes a good relationship?

[–] Smoogs 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Well you certainly don’t that applies for everyone. And for all I know you, you could be super negative, project the worst scenarios only and/or you could be the problem in all your relationships and this is the excuse you landed on for maintaining a delusion.

You could be lying about having a wife just so you can β€˜win’ an argument online with a total stranger online.

Not a far reach considering your response here.

[–] SamuraiBeandog 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

lol do you always assume anyone who disagrees with you is acting in bad faith? Whst a convenient way to shield yourself from uncomfortable truths.

No wonder you're desperate to lock someone into a relationship with you asap, you sound nuts.

[–] Smoogs 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Ditto. As far as bad faith; i nailed you.

[–] SamuraiBeandog 1 points 3 months ago

lol you're the one who came in swinging with "for all I know!" "you could be lying!" as soon as I pressed you on a point. That's the definition of a bad faith argument, you're not acctually trying to engage with points of discussion you're just trying to "win" the conversation.