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Passive Aggressive signals (self.asklemmy)

submitted 6 months ago by Tekkip20 to c/[email protected]

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What are some passive aggressive signals or signs you see? Could be from co workers, strangers, that supposed friendly baker last week.

It rustles my jimmies when someone is pulling off that smiling friendly attitude but they're actually being sarcastic or make off hand comments about me. It's almost like a way to goad me into being the arsehole of the conversation.

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[–] Carrolade 1 points 6 months ago

It's pretty rare for the smiling and friendly person to be throwing subtle shade, that stuff usually comes from a more neutral initial presentation. In the event it does happen it can sometimes be difficult to detect, for sure, but I wouldn't let those rare exceptions bother you too much.

Regarding detection, there's almost always subtle tone and/or body posture cues that will mark it. They're circumstantial though, and vary person to person as well. One of those things you learn as you get to know someone. None is surefire, either, the ambiguity is the whole point, after all.