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Love yourself (lemmy.world)

submitted 5 months ago by ultrahamster64 to c/hopeposting

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I mean, this is somewhat true... self-hatred in itself is a terrible thing. But you can use it as motivation, and reason to change into a better version of yourself. Of course that would be easier without all the self-deprecation, not saying its a good thing, but there's always a way to work with what you're given and turn it around, even if just to make a little bit of progress each day. That's how I found the willpower to finally start transitioning. I couldn't look myself in the mirror without crying, so I tried to single out one thing that was "wrong with me" (which is especially hard in the beginning when it feels like that's literally everything), and do something, no matter how small, about it. Years later I still hate how I look sometimes, but I'm slowly getting better at it and starting to be someone I like.

[–] ultrahamster64 1 points 5 months ago

Yes, I agree that self-hatred can be used as motivation sometimes, and it can be a good one too. But it is a somewhat dangerous path.

I myself struggled with my body - I hated looking in a mirror and even more I hated going in public with even remotely tight/revealing clothes. In my case the rational decision was to go to the gym and get a diet, and this is where self-hatred failed me - it always told me I wasn't good enough, why do I even try, I always gonna look like shit this doesn't work. Only when I noticed it and started actively pushing against it, cutting myself some slack and, in a sense, just loving myself, it allowed me to start getting slow but steady progress.

but there's always a way to work with what you're given and turn it around, even if just to make a little bit of progress each day

Yes, I completely agree. And I also think that you need to have some level of self-love and self-compassion to know and understand that, and to allow yourself to grow in that way.

Also, on the other note: Congrats on the progress, man! Keep up the good work! :)