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[–] dohpaz42 15 points 4 months ago (2 children)

This is the right attitude more people should have. But all too often, when people are proven wrong, they genuinely believe that it must be the other person/group, because they cannot accept the emotional consequences of being wrong.

I know that I’ve had a hard time learning this because growing up I was never held to account for my actions on an emotional level. It was the 80s and 90s, and adults at that time would either shrug it off, or go straight to the nuclear punishment of corporal punishment. Never once would they sit down and talk to you about why what you did was wrong and how to do it better next time. I, anecdotally, believe that a lot of genx suffer this same way. They simply haven’t learned that there is a better way.

[–] gibmiser 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Well, talking to kids and explaining things to them takes time, and it's basically work. How inconvenient.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Also, you have to know what a better way to handle a situation is. If someone’s the type of person who hits a kid for misbehavior, maybe they don’t know how to do better.

My husband and I are in our mid thirties, and are actively holding off on kids until we feel like we’ve gotten better at managing our emotions. Our parents had kids much earlier, and ended up exercising their emotional dysfunction on small children

[–] QualifiedKitten 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I could be completely wrong, but my life experience so far suggests that the best way to get better at something is to put yourself into situations where you have to actually practice the skill. I've been fostering cats and kittens for a few years, and I think it has really pushed me to learn how to manage my emotions better.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

We’re doing all sorts of things to get better at it 😊

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

It's amazing how social norms have changed.

I've got a two year old, who drives me absolutely insane sometimes. I think if I grew up in my parents culture, where it was acceptable to smack kids or shout at them, I probably would.

That's a horrible thing to say, but I'm glad I'm aware of the fact that it's counter-productive. I'm almost jealous of my child, to know they've got someone like me as a father, as opposed to my father.