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Men with 'toxic masculinity' are more likely to make sexual advances without consent, study finds (phys.org)

submitted 5 months ago by Stopthatgirl7 to c/news

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A team of researchers, including Binghamton psychology professor Richard Mattson and graduate student Michael Shaw asked men between the ages of 18–25 to respond to hypothetical sexual hookup situations in which a woman responds passively to a sexual advance, meaning the woman does not express any overt verbal or behavioral response to indicate consent to increase the level of physical intimacy. The team then surveyed how consensual each man perceived the situation to be, as well as how he would likely behave.

The work is published in the journal Sex Roles.

"A passive response to a sexual advance is a normative indicator of consent, but also might reflect distress or fear, and whether men are able to differentiate between the two during a hookup was important to explore," said Mattson.

The team found that men varied in their perception of passive responses in terms of consent and that the level of perceived consent was strongly linked to an increased likelihood of continuing or advancing sexual behavior.

"The biggest takeaway is that men differed in how they interpreted an ambiguous female response to their sexual advances with respect to their perception of consent, which in turn influenced their sexual decisions," said Mattson.

"But certain types of men (e.g., those high in toxic masculine traits) tended to view situations as more consensual and reported that they would escalate the level of sexual intimacy regardless of whether or not they thought it was consensual."

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (2 children)

You do realize that asking can follow misreading a signal? Which is what happened in the instance I was referring to. I'm more than happy to communicate desires. That's literally what I've been suggesting here just that it should go both ways.

[+] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I never once have said saying no is not okay. If someone isn't comfortable doing shit with me I absolutely want them to say no. I've never held that against anyone. The thing I have issues with is that "no" often isn't the only consequence to trying to move forward before they are ready as in the example I gave where I interpreted a signal wrong and suggested we go to the bedroom, she shot me down, the evening continued on without any further pressure from me on the issue and then a week later I find out that afterwards she was complaining about me trying to move too fast to several of her friends. Which makes me look like an asshole in our shared social circle. That I do have a problem with and it's hardly the only experience I've had where it was difficult to get a woman to communicate on the subject with me.

[–] AppaYipYip 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I think the problem is the girl not you. If you asked her politely, she said no, and then you backed down, there is no reason for her to bad mouth you to friends. I could understand maybe asking one trusted person for advice but spreading rumors through a friend group is a serious issue. Not just the girl but also the friends spreading the rumor. I think a lot of people are really bad at communicating and it leads to more issues. If she had simply talked to you about how she felt, I'm sure you both could have worked through it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

Thanks. Fortunately a lot of her friends knew me well enough to question it. One of them was actually the one who told me she was talking about it and wanted to get my side.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Best practice is to communicate before taking action.

It's the same with building a house. Imagine you put one brick onto another, and only after that draw a plan. Kind of a waste of energy.

Talk first, act second.