Oil based is not really good for condoms though. Be careful with that.
Yes, that hurts to hear. It is always a possibility with gay people expressing their love for might-be-straight people. I have trouble believing that your friendship will just die like that.
Has he not contacted you in 18 months? If not.. maybe go ahead and send him a message? This is always troublesome, at least in my mind: "He did not send me a message, he obviously does not care about me. Why should I?", "Why should I be the one always taking the first step?"... But sometimes, someone has to take that first step and show vulnerability.
Maybe something like "Hey. I know we have not contacted in a while, but I really miss you. You were my longest and best friend and I want that to continue.. I miss our talks and I truly care about you. How have you been doing?"
On the other hand.. you contacting him might just open the crush again and here comes suffering. This is something you have to decide for yourself.. In the long run, it may just be better to create new friendships and cultivate those.
This is an absolutely top notch response. Damn, you are good at this. Thank you!
I do agree that avoiding crushes is the best way towards healing. I notice that, even though I like him and want him badly, the days I don´t see him are actually, on average, better days.
Thank you again for your kindness. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be free from suffering.
While that first crush was wild and some of the worst mental anguish I’ve experienced, it definitely helped me grow and learn to focus on what I can change and accept what I can’t. I wasn’t mature enough at all for a relationship at that time anyway; I was still figuring out my own identity in multiple ways, and I was so emotionally consumed by him that I either would’ve centered my whole life around him to an unhealthy degree, or he would’ve lost interest since I’d have stopped developing my own personality.
This is me right now. For a straight guy, no less. And I have had this happen a few times already and it feels like I just never learn. I can´t imagine I will ever get over this guy, but if I do, I will eventually fall stupidly over some other guy and go through the motions all over again. I feel like there is no learning.
You say "it helped me grow and learn to focus on what I can change and accept what I can't". That is very stoic and I know that rationally, but then emotions get into the mix and reason goes out the window.
I am not Italian, no. But maybe update the title of the submission to "Any Italian GayBro?". You might be more successful.
Thank you for posting! I never thought of searching specifically for gay musicians, but, honestly, I should. Other than Elton John that is.
EDIT: And as a mod, this is definitely appropriate for the sub. You are good.
Oh, this looks really good!
Thank you for providing the source. They have some awesome paintings, damn. I want some for wallpapers.
It still pains me that we have brothers in countries that limit their ability to express and be themselves. Imagine a few years from now, hopefully not many, they looking back and knowing that they lost a good chunk of their existence to having to pretend to not be who they are. Time they will never have back. They could have spent that time creating meaningful connections and relationships and sex with like-minded people. But no, someone decided that it is wrong for them to do so. Pathetic.
Can we get this in a high resolution image?
They are so fucking cute together. I want that.
Behave by Sapolsky. I have not finished it yet. I did see his lectures though. But this is my bible. I love Sapolsky.
To me, even in countries that are not hateful towards LGBT, coming out as gay is still strong as fuck. Sadly, you are going to be seen and treated differently. Nothing but respect to him. Fucking go Tomás!