I get you, but I also think there's value in considering how these kinds of conversations affect people who are neither vegetarian nor vegan.
If you create a permission structure for 10 meat eaters to write off the whole group as extremist crazies, while you're trying to bully 1 vegetarian, who might be, maybe, bullied into veganism, that's still a net loss of a whole lot of animals.
Also, this isn't a veg friendly space. Having conversations like this among other veg*ns is entirely a different affair than doing it in an environment where the average response is just "hell no, I love my meat"
I think the divide is bigger on more important issues, so compromise and bipartisanship are more likely on less headline-grabbing issues.