This is super important (and hard)!
idk if this is an autism thing or not, but for me I logic myself into valuing external opinions as more important/credible than my own since they are potentially less biased.
Then I’m essentially judging myself based on my perception of the perception of others; two degrees of separation from reality!
I did this in 2024! I use Finamp on my phone for music.
I bought a lot of albums on bandcamp, bought CDs for those that weren’t on bandcamp, and pirated those that weren’t available in either format (looking at you still woozy, stop releasing tapes lol).
Used CDs are a great deal and can be shipped all over the world for cheap.
Users on jellyfin can be allowed access to selected media libraries so just divvy stuff up that way, simple as folders.