Edit: tbh, I see how the question is framed as a general question too.
I think overall, therapy is a great solution. I wish it was easier to start the process in the states. Surprisingly I haven't had any experience truly understanding anti-depressants or being close to those that took them and were open talking about them. I wish I knew more about their effects on how they help with self-assurance.
Yeah, I also tend to log everything that is supporting my argument. But, it definitely feels like it could be worse "gathering evidence" sometimes. Especially if the topic is around self-improvement rather than something objective.
that’s the time to reëxamine what you just said
yeah this is definitely hard, I feel like sometimes it is hard to see what caused it. or overthinking on what is it that provoked. and then focusing on probably the wrong causation and then basing everything afterwards on that.
Genuinely asking, Do you usually ask for clarification even on that or not? I feel it would make it worse, "What did I do, to make you say that just now to me?" I would normally think it comes off as arrogant.
someone disagrees, try to politely ask why. Most people are willing to explain where you fucked up a long as you don’t get defensive.
Yeah, the problem is sometimes, the experiences don't match up properly and the explanation will still not fit the reason for disagreement. Navigating past that, is really difficult. Because I feel it then becomes a battle of egos. Because all points on the table, self-included, will not fit the solution. But, I guess maybe in these situations a third party is necessary?
can manage is to find fault with a self-serving characterization of a falsely dichotomous opposing position. So they need to be able to assign me to one or the other team
Oh wow, this is kind of what I have experienced. The tougher part for me, it was someone that wasn't a stranger. It made me self-doubt intensely. And I resorted to doing the same, without thinking that I changed myself completely at the moment. Pointing out flaws rather than bringing it back to the main "issue". (I never am one to "confront", so it felt like a new frontier).
Cutting ties with these types, has probably been the biggest mental improvement I have had. And a huge boost in most other aspects of my life. But, I still have these self-doubt questions. But, this time around trying to discover those answers via the suggestions/similar strategies listed in this thread, I feel is much healthier moving forward.
And to go all the way back, it could be said that the exact problem is that they have unfounded confidence.
And it’s sort of ironic really, because they’re generally driven by a psychological need to be right, and clinging desperately to one fixed position pretty much guarantees that right is the one thing they will not be.
This is all spot on to be honest
And to go all the way back, it could be said that the exact problem is that they have unfounded confidence.
I definitely have unfounded confidence as well, but am one to internalize all the causation or experiences that aggravate it. Leaning on those I view have "resolved" those issues I see in myself.
And it’s sort of ironic really, because they’re generally driven by a psychological need to be right, and clinging desperately to one fixed position pretty much guarantees that right is the one thing they will not be.
Which is why when I see traits like this, I tend to mirror thinking its the correct approach. Instead of realizing the flaws of absolutism.
This is great. It's a nice little addition to a list of gratitudes.
It definitely makes sense. and that's what makes it more complicated. because it is also hard to relay context to get second opinions. sometimes what's left is personal reflection, but practicing how to remove self-bias and not re-adjusting past memories to fit an argument is very difficult.
Thank you for listing those categories, it's nice seeing them out in print to properly remember.
Yeah noticed it too. For some of them. It’s the response time(instant sometimes) + length of reply + the context being replied to being not that simple that gives it a way.
StarCraft 2
Mostly for building in-game awareness. Helped in a lot of games, even FPSs. Just always being proactive when facing some kind of meta.
What’s the difference between a federal agency managing this. Potentially susceptible to private lobbying vs. keeping it unregulated?
Instead of being strict on Friday updates like this. I will leave it as between Friday and Sunday.
Some features (RSS Feeds/custom feed styles) and improvements will not appear until build v1.1.0b (2023.9.4) which should be sent out by tonight PST.
Loom: https://github.com/neatia/Loom
LemmyKit: https://github.com/pexavc/LemmyKit
Granite: https://github.com/pexavc/Granite
Testflight: https://testflight.apple.com/join/owwIagmV
The 2 notable updates this week is content filtering and integrating FederationKit, which will aggregate not only Lemmy, but RSS Feeds, Mastodon, and more.
RSS and Mastodon's current integration is just for bookmarks and the main feed at the moment.
I have also added a new option to change the appearance of the feed to a more classic reader feel rather than social app.
| Aggregation Sources (Aside from Lemmy) | |
|---|---|
| RSS feeds can be pulled when setting the instance URL to a valid endpoint. Pagination is not currently supported, but will be in the future. Looking at supporting Atom/JSON streams as well. | |
| Mastodon feeds can be pulled when setting the instance URL to a valid mastodon instance. Pagination is not currently supported, but will be in the future. Interactions are disabled for the time being. |
| Safety | |
|---|---|
On-device CoreML models + keyword filtering to remove posts from the feed. NSFW Extended will remove posts that are detected as NSFW even if they are not flagged as so. Requires an image for inference, which can be generated even without a thumbnail_url property. (As long as a post url itself is available). |
| Styling | |
|---|---|
| Intended to allow full user customization in the future. Currently supports a "social app feel" and a "reddit-like reader". |
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Note:
This week was lots of performance optimizations on the front-end as well as major underlying API changes for communicating with federated networks.
I have not kept iPad and macOS variants up to date (or at least have not tested them thoroughly. In theory they should be at least close to upto date as its the same codebase).
But since there are more testers on iPhone at the moment. I am looking at mobile as the flagship and goal to achieve very high stability and performance up to all iOS 15.4+ devices. I am hoping to bring the other form factors up to speed by the next feature summary.
I'd like to share the TestFlight in this community with a possible listing on other resources for Lemmy federated clients that are being actively supported.
Testflight: https://testflight.apple.com/join/owwIagmV
Feel free to use the https://lemmy.world/c/loom community to post concerns, suggestions, bugs, and I will tend to them promptly!
macOS clients are always released via Github as notarized archives. Or, you could build it locally on your own.
Known Issues:
- Scrolling stutter
- Registration is not functional
- macOS (intel) optimizations
- I do not have an M-chip, so may be missing more macOS related bugs that need to be fixed
List of some major features are below:
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/3804045
v1.1.0b is in Review. Will be available by end of day.
1.0.4b was skipped. Since lots of changes were made in Granite, decided to mark v1.1.0 to denote.
Loom: https://github.com/neatia/Loom
LemmyKit: https://github.com/pexavc/LemmyKit
Granite: https://github.com/pexavc/Granite
Testflight: https://testflight.apple.com/join/owwIagmV
Looms Create "Looms" of any group of communities from any instance. Merging their content into a singular feed.
Explore Visit linked instances when connected to a lemmy server. View small snippets of each and their ping response time.
Travelling Modals Writing modals can travel with your viewing context. Allowing you to browse content in any stack prior to publishing.
Bookmark Syncing All your saved posts and comments can be switched between accounts in a dedicated component.
Sharing Share posts or comments as images. With the intention of supporting QR codes and Engravings in the future.
Search Either search all, a specific subcategory with sort support. View expanded contents within the view, interacting with content as normal.
Profile Dynamic threads, despite viewing context. Swipe to reply to comments or tap the more button, to modify, remove, block, etc. Deleting and restoring with toast reactions. Switch accounts, view their profiles, and their scores.
Embedded Webview Custom JS insertion supported, customizing how webpages are viewed via direct user input is a possibility.
Light Mode Light mode and Dark mode supported. Refer to the color group in Assetsto define preferences.