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I like how he can't even express an intent to protect women without undermining our consent.

AFAIK

lol, turns out that's not very far

The chest in those rooms is always either a ring, an artifact, or a wand. It's often the better option.

First and foremost, open, honest communication is always the top priority if you're trying to support someone through any complicated thing. Check in with her regularly to make sure she feels supported rather than pressured.

Also, I think framing things as suggestions is probably the root of the concern here. I would back off of that.

Learning and sharing what you've learned can be helpful. Suggesting a course of action, especially if you have not been asked to make a suggestion, can undermine her autonomy.

The primary way trans people are attacked as they transition is having their autonomy questioned, undermined, and rejected. Usually this is from people who oppose their transition, but it is also entirely possible to encroach on her autonomy by telling her how you think she should transition.

I too would love to vote for AOC, which is precisely why her endorsement matters to me.

I trust her judgment enough to want to elect her, so I also trust her judgment that the best path forward right now is to support Harris.

Yeah, unless you're particularly well equipped for that type of interaction, you're unlikely to get any kind of satisfying outcome by asking them a question

Those sorts of people have a lot of experience gish galloping, rationalizing their own contradictions, and feeling smug about whatever bullshit response they give.

I don't think their facade is impossible to engage with or break through, but it will always take more than one clever question to get there.

Anyone participating in this discussion in good faith

Did you read the article?

No, we are not.

The article describes multiple queer activists and groups supporting BDS as a component of Pride.

protests outside of LGBTQ+ rights do NOT belong here

The article also describes the direct link between BDS and Pride.

It's the easiest way to share a screenshot

That's great, and it's nice that you don't have to deal with that jolt of dysphoria in those situations.

I'm simply saying that it's also common (and okay) to not be entirely comfortable with those terms. Especially from strangers or acquaintances.

I don't think seeking to reduce the linguistic pattern of male as the default is a misguided effort.

"Offended" is a bit of a strong word.

Many trans folks are, understandably, bummed out when gendered terms that refer to their AGAB are used to refer to them.

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to avoid causing that brief moment of dysphoria. That just feels like a thoughtful and kind thing to do.