Hint: https://mastodon.social/
You have to pick a microblogging service. What's the difference? Truth Social is just a mastodon instance, but it's commercial and it has marketing. That's all that's "missing" from any other fediverse instance, and thank fucking god.
It's the raison d'etre. Saying "don't federate" is like saying "don't put images and rich hyperlinking on the WWW, just make it like Gopher." If you don't want to federate, don't. But saying that it was a bad move for ActivityPub is just nonsensical.
There are reasons that they have spent thousands or tens of thousands of working hours to make uptake as easy as possible. Those reasons are not in your interests. It is such a small price to pay. It is a necessary feature of ANY distributed service. The irony of complaining about it from your niche little Lemmy instance.
Look at it this way. You still had to pick an instance!! You just picked an instance that cannot talk to any other instances. If you were not so (forgive me but I guess it's the term we're using for lack of a better one) stupid, you would have realized that you had just had a meaningful choice taken from you, and made for someone else's benefit instead of yours.
Throughout our entire global culture, convenience is killing us. I happen to believe free and healthy public forums outside of capitalist exploitation is of vital importance. I think this is a place our governments have abdicated responsibility to their citizens, and the Fediverse is the next best thing to public infrastructure. It's so worth it when everything you need to know can be expressed in a one page FAQ that fits on your phone's screen.
Jesus you people are so insecure. And I have relevant childhood trauma. Work on your shit.
Nothing says he can't just go home early, Mr Moneybags won't mind if there is an extra fee.
If you view spending time with your son in the Maldives as a chore getting foisted off on you, then yes, you certainly should not go. Or really even have a lot of contact with any of them.
Punch a capitalist.
It's certainly an aspect to impress on children that, despite what Mommy And Daddy TV taught you, guns are not things good kids play with.
This isn't FOR the wife. It's FOR the child. The wife doesn't get anything out of this. It isn't rewarding her. Do you think SHE wants the ex there?! This is just broken thinking. It's not anyone's job to teach the wife "the right lessons" or make sure she doesn't get rewarded for the wrong thing. I think you are covering for more primitive motivations.
Good advice. I have cultivated a positive relationship with my metamour and it makes a big difference.
There are at least three viable commercial microblogging sites right now. So you already have all these problems, without even considering the Fediverse. The Fediverse is the SOLUTION to these problems, not the cause.