indomara

This is interesting, I'm currently in Japan and noticed the Starbucks here are huge with many tables and chairs and they are packed with people sitting and reading, doing homework, etc. Many don't have drinks or appear to hang out there all day.

Why has America made everything so hostile?

I filled it out as well, I hope to hear about the results!

For fucks sake. I leave for vacation and this shit happens on the third day!

She's beautiful!

I am the wife of a mechanical engineer, who's brothers are mechanical and electrical engineers, who's parents are electrical engineers, who's best friends are aerospace engineers.

Basically I married into a family of robots, and I agree with this commenter here.

This is the crux of why senior engineers struggle to talk about work I think, and I find the best way for me to get them talking, is to try to learn something small about their work, enough that I can ask intelligent questions, and then listen carefully to the replies.

After a while they open up and I get to listen to the best rants about "special metals" or "systems architecture" or "braking systems in the railway". It's awesome.

It's how I connect with my husband.

The other wives stand in a circle and roll their eyes about them talking about work because they don't understand anything. "Oh there they go, talking about work again."

I decided I didn't want that to be me, and told myself I would listen when they were talking, listen when my husband was working from home. Learn to ask intelligent questions about his work, and eventually, I knew what he was talking about.

Enough that I now freelance in condition monitoring, giving me yet another way to connect with him.

Ask intelligent questions, get excited about the replies, encourage them so they know you won't be insulted when they assume you don't know about and you will have them opening up in no time.

This game ended up getting my entire extended family of engineers and our kid addicted. The kid still plays and its adorable watching them nerd out over the math.

Sad times. :(

It is either AI or very badly overdone editing. They both give me the uncanny valley feel.

What an odd take.

10 years for the children to be able to fend for themselves? Assuming you are married before the first pregnancy, then have a full term birth at 40 weeks, then wait 12 months before the second birth that would put the first child around ... 8 when this hypothetical "ideal" marriage dissolved, and subsequent children even younger.

Which wouldn't make sense at all from an evolutionary standpoint, finding another man to step in as a father is not easy, so much so that there were laws around the care of widows in most societies.

The average marriage duration is only 7 years? Seems its nearly double that here in Australia. I also have two 18 year olds living at home who say they desperately want independence but also don't want to get a job or do dishes, and have the sexual maturity of a potato.

I don't think we are "meant to" have any particular relationship type or length, humans are far too diverse for that.

Edit: Some interesting replies, notably both touch on the concept of "it takes a village" which I agree is something we have sadly lost in most of Western society. I however do not think it is a stand in for long term family units. Instead I think a "village" type of setup takes the pressure off parents and allows for a stronger partnership. The countries with longest marriages are all either countries with multi-generational housing as the norm, or with higher incomes per capita.

There are so many fetishes and sexual quirks that exist out there, some more niche than others. With very few exceptions I do not think those that enjoy them are weirdos or perverts.

Love is not a thing that happens to you, love is an action. Love is a conscious decision, made every day. Love is work.

I once read some research done on marriages and love and what predictors there are for a marriage failing.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

Lol, this whole subplot is hilarious.

It starts here: https://www.oglaf.com/cumsprite/