I'll definitely keep that in mind as I keep dating, although it might be a while before I get back out there. thanks for the advice I really appreciate it
imperialcoder
joined 1 year ago
glad you found someone like that! my parents are almost a spitting image of something similar to that ๐ thanks for sharing and best of luck with the proposal
dam two years is a long time to learn something like that. at least we can learn from our mistakes. for now though, taking a year or two break just to get myself in a better place
It's been a rough 2 years beyond this just happening and I guess out of desperation I felt like it was the only good thing going for me in my life. that in contrast with my last relationship, where we had been dating for a whole year but due to me losing my job I had to move back home. she never really said she wanted me to stay and that influenced my descision to move back. after the fact, I felt like I should have fought for our relationship and for me to stay. I've since reached out and she said she would have loved if I had stayed but understood that I couldn't and didn't really question it. I've since learned now to just let it be. if it's not working out, it's not working out. Thank you for your comment, really appreciate it!
yeah... as soon as I found out that should have just ended it there. sadly the span for when I found out to being arrested was one week. there were earlier signs like the mood changes I should have picked up on but it's a skill I've been trying to figure out with my therapist. thanks for the comment!
top right is an absolute mood
your totally right! at the time I thought I was comfortable with myself but looking back its been a rough journey to realize I never really did. part of me thinks thats the religious aspect of my past haunting me on top of being treated horribly by my extended family in the past. thank you for the great advice
I should have just ended it there, you're totally right. sadly at the time I felt like since we where coworkers I had to keep it friendly. thanks for the advice
you're absolutely right, I've been finding that out a lot in therapy recently. I've always tried to be impartial and always give people a chance as I've had really good friends in my life who've gone through some tough shit, but I tend to forget my own needs a lot of the time. Thanks for the wisdom, appreciate it
nice wallpaper! love the color scheme too
it's ok, I'm taking it day by day and hoping for the best. also wow, she sounds like a keeper for sure! I've never had a relationship that strong before, even friends. I'll definitely keep that in mind in my next relationship. I tend to be a over giver when it comes to anyone in my life ๐ I'm learning to set more boundaries now