I find that most of those issues are nonexistent the way I am on reddit - just use old.reddit everywhere. Yes, even on mobile. I'm special, and not in a good way, but it works.
I fear the day old.reddit gets shut down, considering the amount of communities that don't have an (alive) analog on Lemmy, so for now I use both...
That'd be a silver lining if it were to work out that way. However, seeing the stats of old.reddit usage is depressing - it's a very small minority, would barely make a dent in reddit's traffic if every old.reddit user migrated in such a case.
My personal issue is that reddit has that critical mass to not only sustain generic wide-appeal communities, which Lemmy also achieves, but also small niche communities, which Lemmy really doesn't for the most part. Reddit needs to fuck up even worse, way worse than just discontinuing old.reddit.