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In trans nerds we trust :)

I see "An error has occurred!" when clicking through the above link :(

Sweetie did you read the part about being transfem? I ~~do~~drink coke, not beer ;)

You make some good points.

try to use public transport as primary means, but use the car instead if it's not viable or the difference would be big

I agree with you, thanks for improving my 'rule' :)

Really the only justification for a car is when you have kids. I have 3 of them, and a car is super super useful. But yeah, for everyone else, use public transport.

Why scare quotes? I lived in Düsseldorf back in '90 (go alts - that was the name of my school team, and yes it was sponsored by Alt bier 🍺... different times), it's always been one of Germany's more clean cut, upmarket cities, but this picture makes me want to go back and check it out again.

Then again, I'm a queer transfem and I'm in BERLIN, THE QUEER CAPITAL OF THE WORLD. Düsseldorf is in the last instance just meh.

For the first time?

Really bugs me too. It's vulgar and mean-spirited. I say this as a transfem who is an explicit target of discriminatory republican policies.

Making fun of someone because they're old is unacceptable. That's civility 101, if you claim to be a democrat and do this kind of thing you're a fraud imho

Who needs color anyway? A black laser printer is the way to go :)

For me at least, transitioning -- particularly in the first few months -- was intensely social. I'm really fortunate to live in a very trans- and queer-friendly city, and there's something going on every day of the week -- at least for queer people, usually something specific for trans people, too.

For me this helped a lot in dealing with frustration and dysphoria, because you meet lots of other trans people who are in the same boat. These people are going to listen to you, validate you, and afterward, and generally make you feel better and happier. So I would basically kinda push myself (without taking it too far, sometimes chillaxing in front of the tv is great) to go out especially when I felt down; I treated it almost as a kind of therapy. For me at least this really helped :)

Wow didn't even know there's such a thing as HRT implants. I'm on EEv injections since 17 months..... HRT is the best

A few points:

1. you should (strictly) prefer std::scoped_lock over std::lock_guard.
2. your scope locked takes an std::mutex, not a map (ie in its constructor)
3. the lambda passed to foo is called a completion handler; one way to thread a bunch of (related) handlers without needing explicit locks is to use so-called strands. As long as all the operations which have to be performed serially are coroutines, spawned within strand in question, you can actually have a thread pool of executors running, and asio will take care of all the locking complexity for you.
4. you're using p in the block as a whole, and within the completion handler, so be aware that the p outside has to be well-defined, and that the interior one (in the lambda) shadows the outer one. (I'm a fan of shadowing, btw, the company I used to have lint settings which yelled when shadowing happens, but for me it's one of the features I want, because it leads to more concise, uniform, clear names -- and that in turn is because shadowing allows them to be reused, but in the specific context... anyyyyway)
5. modern C++ tends to favour async style code. Instead of passing a completion handler to foo, you make foo an awaitable functor which co_yields an index (p, above), one which we can co_await as in:

   // note: the below has to run in a coroutine 
   ...
   my_map[q].insert(10); // renamed outer p to q to avoid collision now that async-style leaves p in the same scope as outer code!
   const auto& p = co_await foo(bar1);
   // use p
   

6. If you want to do 5 on existing code, follow the guidelines here to wrap legacy callback code into something that works with C++20 awaitables.
7. If I may be so bold, you're describing something intrinsically async, so you may want to consider using boost::asio, then you get access to all this.
8. and nowadays, all this is dead easy to install using conan