Do you have supportive people now? It's never too late for a party! I'd definitely go to a bridal shower if the bride couldn't do it before getting married. I say go all out if you want one. Now is the time to go overboard in supporting trans people anyway, at least in my country.
Well, I guess to be fair, I do a lot of normal human behavior, like pooping and sometimes imagining inanimate objects have feelings. Maybe I just need to lighten up? 😛
Thanks! I agree
That's a good one I hadn't thought of.
BTW where can I find out more about dbzer0's instance? Like purpose/values/location/config (i.e. downvotes). I assume you have an in with someone important to have that username there (kidding 🙃) . I'm not unhappy with where I'm at necessarily but I didn't do much research when picking, I just wanted to get on a different server that wasn't censoring things without even an announcement.
Thanks brother/sister/sibling!
(sorry I don't know your pronouns, I used to wonder if I would ever actually run into that with the way conversations work here but TIL)
I will try not to ban myself by accident.
I really like the way it's put in the post about the rule, but it's a lot to ask people to casually read if they're not part of the comm. I see it as growing pains, so I know once lemmy is past the point of being easier to browse everything than curate your subscriptions and watch for new communities it will improve.
Plus the mods at the ADHD were like hardcore bouncers on steroids when it came to maintaining a healthy community for the intended audience. That's not a comparison with db0, I know almost nothing about him(?), but I certainly like his self-described FAFO policy about breaking the rule.
Yeah, those I do have some sympathy for because they're still living life on hard(er) mode but no matter who you are it's the sheer volume of knee-jerk reactions that's annoying.
I looked at your profile and caught some of the nuked comments you made in that same thread I came from. I totally agree, it's really frustrating to see disinformation repeated a bunch of times with many upvotes, show up with an actual informed opinion, and people downvote you like crazy in minutes.
I think it's because a bunch of people are just looking at the everything feed instead of just their subscribed comms (myself included), because it's easy to handle right now with lemmy not having an enormous userbase. But these people obviously know where they're commenting if they're saying that.
I mean I don't come into your house and basically tell you you're just imagining your problems. It's ableist as shit.
Yeah I'm really tempted to, I just don't have the funds at the moment. Let me know what you think!
I think it's hilarious that one of the advertised features is basically keeping your sanity when you have a newborn.
You obviously have good taste 👌😁 (no /s)
I find frequently even people who have the same disability or an adjacent one can say some really ignorant stuff, almost as if their struggles gives them a license to judge others. Relating to others' struggles is good and validating, but don't let it turn into a comparison.
Even for myself, I didn't understand the whole picture of what ptsd can do to you when I was dealing with just anxiety. Now that I've experienced it, I understand the fucking sheer terror that is living in hypervigilance mode, it really seems unfathomable if you haven't been there. And I have no idea if I experience it like others do. Not saying one is worse than the other but they are not just variations of the same thing.
I'm looking forward to the world being a better place when people in general understand it's best not to try and decide for someone else what their experiences mean to them, and nobody wins when you compare suffering. I hope we make a lot of progress in my lifetime.