TheDannysaur

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Thank you for this. I hate all the caveating you have to do on the internet, but this taught me something I didn't know and now I'm slightly less of an idiot :)

I hope Christmas went alright for you, and that you can look forward to a good 2025 :)

I'm sorry dude. That all just sucks.

If I can offer a path of thought, it sounds a bit like you're punishing yourself for being happy. It sounds like you have sort of a duality... You remember Christmas being a happy time with a lot of togetherness and love. And you also remember that it is the time when you heard this devastating news.

You might sit and try to sort that out... Both of those things in your brain at the same time are certain to drive anyone a bit mad.

But you don't have to punish yourself for being happy sometimes. It really sounds like you have a big case of survivor's guilt. There are pathways through that grief that may allow you to be happy and also honor the memory of a dear friend.

There's no "right" answer, just an answer that's right for you. You might consider talking to someone to help you unwind this ball of thoughts. Perhaps on the other side is something you can do every holiday in honor of your friend to help pay him back by paying it forward. While he's not here, maybe you could do something extra to spread Christmas cheer on his behalf. There's a hole in the world where he used to be - you could potentially help fill that.

It won't be easy, but I'd encourage you to walk along the path of those thoughts and see if you can find some peace.

I wish you luck, whatever you decide to do.

I don't need any, but thank you for embodying the Holiday Spirit :)

Like me!

I'm pretty shocked that you're getting downvoted for saying that a murder might not be the way to invoke change.

That's pretty nuts to me. Everyone seems like they are trying to justify this... Why are we justifying murder? People can be pretty devoid of empathy. I understand that people want change, and that we need it. I worked in health insurance and know how wasteful it is and how much pain it causes.

Pseudo-celebrating a murder and trying to back-justify it is about the same as actively hoping/campaigning that it happens. It honestly seems like some people are on here with the mentality that any CEO should be moderately expecting to be murdered, and that it is acceptable to live in a world that operates that way.

Could it be device compatibility? Apps can set certain parameters I believe. Maybe your device doesn't fit?

I mean the polls for Biden were bad and getting worse. Harris was only down a couple points... Biden was down double digits. I hate to say it, but with the 2 point polling error, Biden had 0 path to make it. I don't know a single state that he would have taken off of Trump.

Ah yes. Great. We're the election conspiracy theorists now. It's apparently democrats turn to make completely baseless accusations.

This stuff is exhausting. We want to look for every reason except for the one that matters: Democrats lost America. We need to break the party apart and start over.

Every other excuse just delays and distracts. Democrats fucked it. We can be all high and righteous as we want, but we lost 2 of 3 to Donald Trump.

Face the reality. Democrats need to reinvent themselves or they will lose to shit candidates like Trump.

.... So living further away from the equator is detrimental to your health? I haven't heard of this phenomenon.

Iowa itself is a lost cause. It's 75% Republican here. We're gerrymandered to high hell, so even if Baccam squeaks through, Iowa state legislature won't look very blue. If it's 60/40 Republican I'd be absolutely shocked.

But contributing one Senator nationally would be pretty neat.