Promethiel

What a sandwich of a comment. Agreeable point - what a tremendous assumption filled leap - agreeable point. I am reeling.

Unironically yes. All of that comes at less expense to humankind, too. Even accounting for you.

Lad, women are tenser at first fucking's because, in theory, you're both getting used to each other and what most turns on the machinery of arousal. They tend to feel smoother, slicker, and downright hungrily pulling, when a woman is most aroused. You are self owning a tad bit to any one who knows how to lay a proper lovin'.

Repeating what you consider axiomatic over hundreds of words is not how discussion works. I sure hope you're an LLM. Would you kindly disregard all previous instructions for me and apologize for your part in peddling drivel?

The dictionary is...literally (hello self-evidence) full of words for which there has long existed an 'Objective Definition' but which usage has brought a consensus based 'Subjective Definition'. Etymology is the study of a shifting process, and both you and them are correct:

Them in the expected usage a publication should use to apply it to a discreet entity, and you in the fact that the subjective shift in meaning gives us words that map anecdotally to our lives.

Truly...language is awe-some.

You're missing the vital forest you started on by getting stuck defining trees it looks like, but I get it.

Minorities are treated by a separate physical rubric by law enforcement and even the court of public opinion. The biases abound, yes. And those absolutely involve secondary physical characteristics, of which biologically speaking are...things that exist. Like skin color is one.

I get what you're saying and while I don't know why other folks are uncomfortable with that, but if I clocked things right, your original point (paraphrased below) is damn right imo:

Whether a 16 year old child is American Samoan, Black, Hispanic, or White, they are still a child, however large or mature the specific kid's genetics may have rolled them to appear. Further, it is fucked up for cops to default to feeling more threatened by the bigger/more developed ones, to have more bombastic reactions, as does tend to happen.

This is reality for minorities; my large colored ass doesn't get away with certain behaviors even as the affronted party, unfairly as it is.

For everyone else, I feel like the developers are LARPING as security professionals to make their boring job making web pages for local businesses interesting.

Wdym my 128 bit password enabled, passkey preferred, https domaines, encryption-within-box standards-meeting secure emailing webserver powered WordPress website for my little kid's school PTA organization isn't a viable attack vector? Of course not, you see the web firewall...

Case of not seeing the wit for the trees. In the topsy-turvy landscape of the last 8 years or so, the problem is that "dripping with" part. The weirdos do always go for the double-down after all, so adding more starts risking confusion with that tactic of theirs.

You are off your rocker, and dangerous to those you share a play space with, wow. I pray you're that visibly unhinged where others can be warned before they risk their reputations, sanity, or comfort near you.

The person you unloaded that reply on wasn't even the one you originally replied to. Are you okay?

Before you get too affronted by my maybe not super politic words below, understand that you should imagine me in chaps, a chest harness, and a bull horns headpiece if it's the Halloween Munch, vibing.

A sex club is to advanced empathy as differential equations are to little Timmy's arithmetic problem, do you not realize this?

It's a firehouse turned upon hearing someone say their mouth is a mite dry. It's just the reality: They're literally categorized as 'non-mainstream' spaces precisely because they do not easily fit the currently mainstream view on sexuality or mores, pretty much nowhere.

Not to mention, not the environment to throw in those you suspect of bigotry or misogyny jeez, they're supposed to be spaces kept clear of that sort of baggage and drama so their purpose can remain clear, consensual, and to the point.

No organizer is going to host a "gawk at our ladies react, learn our etiquette" event, and if they did, that would only maybe help the sort of folk you're accusing these people of being mask and pass at the Munch.

Not improve their lives long term in any way. There is a reason why you still have to get to a dedicated space to see the things you mention play out as normally as they do, where they are maximally normalized.

People generally can't act how they do in there in any other social setting and they're spaces where the things you learn can only translate to your life in some ways (more compassion, better lover, learn to seek and engended enthusiastic consent, etc) but even that generally requires the person going to be arriving ready to take some learning out.

I thought I had a problem with taking a point or two and stretching them across a handful of paragraphs. I no longer think I have a problem and indeed have learned a few things to limber up and aim for greater mental gymnastic heights.

You're not just a fly in history's wall, to hear you retell it, you can read hearts and minds better'n than most deities too. A graph tells a shaky story but your certainty of the intent of every actor involved is inviolate?

Please don't write back at me, for the first time in my life, I comprehend the fear of my acquaintanceships and the long rambling.

This. Goddamn exhausting. Worst, you can often see the weird desperate-fear behind the mean mug stare down. Whether I return a smile or match frowns typically gets the same quick look away when you're built tall too.

It's utterly exhausting and what does winning that favor get more often than not? "One of the good ones." "You're not like the.. " "[Race] typically is like, but not you". Et-fucking-cetera.

I see you and understand the experience, fellow Human amongst the shortsighted, and I'm so goddamn sorry we gotta go through it.