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It is so bittersweet isn’t it? Some days I’m so done with it, feeling touched out and ready to stop, another day I enjoy nursing again and the intimacy it brings. I’ve heard from some mums that their baby pretty much weaned themselves, and heard from others that they had to stick to a strict mantra to themselves to cut the feeds. Each kid is so different.

At the end of the day, what matters most is your baby having a happy mum around. You’ve done so well to breastfeed this long and given your little one an amazing start. If you are ready to stop then that is the best thing for you and your baby. If you aren’t ready to stop then by all means enjoy continuing your breastfeeding journey until either you or your little one are ready to stop. There’s no rush or timeline, whatever personally works for you is the right answer. :)

I’m currently weaning at 26 months and it was very much a conscious choice from me as my little boy has been so resistant to it and it’s been a slow process dropping the feeds. Makes me feel so guilty! We are down to one or two a day now. However, he is such a comfort nurser and days where he is poorly he is seeking out feeds to soothe him. He is autistic too and it was a long journey to guide him away from using the boobs as a way to calm down and regulate himself when he is having a meltdown/shutdown.

If you do want any tips on how I weaned some feeds out of his routine please let me know.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I really went back and forth on this one a lot. Ultimately, I think you’re absolutely right - it goes against the spirit of what this community is all about.

Love this song, massive Placebo fan. Had the pleasure of seeing them live a few years back. :)

Gatehouse, Solar, Dovecote, Storeroom/Cellar, Ice House, Drawing Room, Courtyard, Stables, Barbican, Gardens, Throne Room, Distillery, Steward’s Office, Alchemy lab, Oubliette, Place of Arms, Kennels, Tower, Keep, Bower, Mezzanines

If I think of any more I’ll add them :)

Hopefully something out soon it’s been a hot minute since I’ve had time to sit down and work on my music for long enough, I’ve got a toddler keeping me busy 😂

Thank you so much, this one was a lot of fun to make. I used a lot of the spaceship/alien SFX from the film :D

Yeah sure I’ll hop on soundcloud desktop when I’m at my PC later and turn the free download on :)

Always love this tune!

Thank you :)

Thank you again, yes hopefully this might be something that is a future problem as lemmy grows, at the moment everyone seems pretty alright on here. My worry is that if/when lemmy becomes easier to access to non-techies and more people (looking at you Threads ugh), then we will start having problems. I hope we defederate and do it soon.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment, it’s certainly given me a lot to consider. I suppose it’s deciding now whether to be in the safer space or have the outreach to be visible to more people who need the support. I might be wrong but I’m assuming that Lemmy users currently don’t have a huge percentage of women who are child rearing at the moment. But then again, I’m here, so who knows. :)

Well done you, Mama! It certainly does require a lot of determination. I’m still going with my firstborn at 25 months but we are currently weaning (he is not happy with me).