I know what you mean. I think it’s partly because it’s based on D&D which tends to skew very male-heavy and the whole cast is a bunch of old men as well so it has that effect. I did enjoy it a bit more than you but I have yet to continue with the next book (which does seem like it might be better?)
There is also the inverse of the book called Queens of the Wyrd by Timandra Whitecastle which I have but haven’t read yet. Might be what you’re looking for!
Looks amazing! And yeah making a lace scarf is definitely a commitment. I made one and gave it away as well because I too realized I don’t wear lace scarves either, plus it never gets cold enough where I currently live. But it still looks beautiful and you should definitely be proud!