Kayday

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[–] Kayday 1 points 8 months ago

Good luck! I will qualify that I was able to have 3 separate 10-15 minute practice sessions a day, spaced out 3 or more hours from each other. Getting the practice in consistently helped a lot.

[–] Kayday 7 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

American libertarians are conservatives who don't like that label, and have a big stick up their butts about taxes.

[–] Kayday 7 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

If it helps, I can't recommend this resource highly enough. In 3 months I achieved results close to my goal after poor results of on and off practice for the last few years.

[–] Kayday 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Godamn that's depressing

[–] Kayday 18 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I really hope I say this without sounding rude. People who look pretty or attractive by society's standards put a lot of effort into their appearance. It's a lot to maintain your skin, hair, strength, weight, etc.

I'm sure you put effort in, I'm not trying to discount that. I do think there are some things you could be doing to help feminize your appearance however.

  • Getting your eyebrows shaped can be a game changer.
  • Adding eyeliner or changing your approach to it can help a lot also.
  • You have gorgeous hair with great volume. I love how it is now, but sometimes a change in hairstyle helps us change how we see ourselves.
  • You may not believe this, but your face shape reads feminine to me. That being said, the effects of HRT may become more prominent if the fat could redistribute again with some weight loss/gain.

The disappointing thing is that most of those things I just mentioned won't change, or will change very little from HRT. I hope you can find support and encouragement to do what makes you happy. All I mean to say is that you may need to explore some options in addition to things you are already doing. It is not hopeless!

[–] Kayday 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

My wife and I decided on how we want our son to call us. She'll be mama, and I'll be wama, like Mario and Wario.

We have a recurring joke in our family where lots of things get called wa-something when it's different, not just bad like the original name implies.

It's small, but was super validating especially since she is the one who pushed for a new name for me.

[–] Kayday 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I have had conversations with evangelicals who believe retiring is morally wrong, based entirely on this one passage:

For even when we were with you, we gave you this command: Anyone unwilling to work should not eat. 2 Thessalonians 3:10

I can't begin to wrap my head around this.

[–] Kayday 5 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Right. I would hope the takeaway men get from this is that, "what was your worst date", may not be an appropriate get to know you question for most women.

[–] Kayday 11 points 9 months ago

Lots of people saying this isn't uplifting enough. If this was my dad, I'd feel a lot more than just uplifted.

The more people who come around to reason, the more people will be exposed by proxy to a healthy perspective. This is absolutely uplifting, even if it's tragic we are in this place to begin with.

[–] Kayday 8 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I think you're asking for advice, so here's mine on makeup: practice makes perfect.

It is an art, like sketching, painting, or anything else. Even if you find a good tutorial, you're still going to need to practice. Part of your learning process may include an afternoon where you apply makeup, wipe it off, and apply a few more times so that you can really hone in on some things.

Don't be afraid of cheap makeup, especially while you're learning. Once you know what works for you, then you may decide you want to get some fancier products.

[–] Kayday 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

"I am not trans, I just wish I was a gender different than what I was assigned. That's normal, everyone feels that way sometimes. Sure wish I could transition, but too bad I'm not trans. Did I say I'm not trans?"

[–] Kayday 3 points 9 months ago

If only there was a word that meant we used the path of least resistance.

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