DrMario

Also between the two I’d say porn is decidedly more advertiser friendly

I don’t get how threads would interface with Lemmy, I thought it was a microblogging service like Twitter?

Yeah, what does Meta have to lose? Only their reputation for protecting user privacy, which was lost long ago.

I thought they were only temporarily defederating from World because the mass influx of users was fucking up their servers and capacity to moderate

God that’s fucking dystopian

Agreed, if OP is getting dates then women are clearly interested, just something not clicking on the first date. And yeah, texting on apps definitely sucks. I try to do it as little as possible. But I think many questions can be reworked into statements, like "Where do you work" is boring, but "I'm getting lawyer vibes" accomplishes the same thing and is more fun

Hey OP, I hear your frustration. Sometimes, she will simply not be into you like that, and that’s okay. But there are concepts that can significantly improve your dating life if you learn them.

The most important thing is to intentionally be romantic. You have to flirt. The way you describe this interaction doesn’t sound very flirty. She was nice and you had a good conversation? That’s great, but she could probably get a similar experience from a friend.

Flirting is about making things exciting. Taking a risk and making your intentions known is often attractive. Think playful banter. Having a low stakes, interview-style conversation is just boring for most women.

Practical ways to be more flirty:

• choose a venue where you can sit side by side
• maintain great eye contact when she’s talking
• don’t rush to fill every silence, let it breathe
• use statements more, rather than just questions
• respectful and appropriate use of touch
• playfully challenge or disagree with her at times
• humor is great, but don’t constantly joke around

Basically, being a nice guy with a good job is great, and actually a prerequisite for many women to date you. But it’s not inherently sexy. You gotta learn how to embrace your romantic side to show them you’re capable of that, too.

I used the old site for more than a decade, and I remember when the highest upvoted posts on the frontpage had only 2K upvotes. Lemmy is at that point now and its future is full of potential.

When I see the notifications popup in the top right corner, it surprisingly reminds me of old FB. Back when instead of an app buzzing in my pocket 24/7 with notifications that are actually just ads or BS, I intentionally choose to log on, see the notification, and think "Oh, someone interacted with me, let's go see what they said."

You probably already know about wefwef.app but I'm going to mention it here for anyone reading. It's cross-platform and already shockingly close to feeling like Apollo

We'll have to see what the long-term looks like. This was never going to be an instant death for reddit, but it absolutely could be the beginning of a slow decline into irrelevance. Digg never went offline, it just became useless

Plus this already was the case on reddit, you would often have the biggest mainstream sub for a hobby and then a dozen+ smaller, more specific ones. More choice is good imo, and because of how federation works it will never be hard to find the most popular version of a sub