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I just got up from conversation with a couple of older black men, that I said "well I got to go back to work and start cracking the whip." And it occurred to me then that it was probably a really insensitive stupid thing to say.

Sadly, it hadn't occurred to me until it's already said.

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[โ€“] HexesofVexes 8 points 1 year ago

"Seek offence and you shall find it" - The secret mantra of Tumblr users

It's a tricky one because if someone wants to be offended, they definitely will be. I once knew a guy who, for some reason, found the use of the word "slug" (in any context) intensely offensive. To this day, no-one ever learned why.

[โ€“] cheese_greater 7 points 1 year ago

You can't be stupid, otherwise you'd be on Reddit ๐Ÿ˜Š

[โ€“] SpezBroughtMeHere 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You're overthinking it. You didn't say anything insensitive or stupid. It will offend some people, but they are usually looking at how to be a victim and that gives them an opportunity. It's just words, don't worry about it so much.

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[โ€“] force 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I actually looked into this two days ago. I came across a PDF that was maybe six years old but already outdated. It's a problem when it's this difficult to keep up. I know it's a problem to not try to keep up too though. The human condition sucks.

[โ€“] AnarchistArtificer 3 points 1 year ago

This is a great list for ableist terms . https://www.autistichoya.com/p/ableist-words-and-terms-to-avoid.html I'm disabled in multiple ways and there were a few on here that caused me to re-evaluate my lexicon.

A list has limited use because language evolves, and so do people, and on top of that, context is everything โ€” but it can be a good place to start

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