Mental Health

I can tell that you're overstressed and anxious. What is application in reference to? Is it an actual application like a form or is a digital app like you get on a smart phone. I apologize if I've over analyzed your situation and if I completely missed the key notes of what kind of application it is.

Hey, I hear your frustration, you know what you want and ought to do, but the brain just won't let you do it. It's a shitty place to be in.

I don't know your entire background, but part of what I pick up on from your story is cabin fever and stress. Those are by themselves things that make stuff like this harder, and also harder to break out of.

For me, it's often more helpful to take a step back and assume a role of a gentle caretaker, some find it more helpful to think zoo keeper or pet parent, but the point is to assume a tolerant but separated stance towards the non-functioning parts. It's trying, but it isn't quite adapted to it's situation and might need a little help to overcome some of the challenges. Like a dog who can't figure stairs, or a child with a stick wider than a doorway. A little support and encouragement will go further than most other approaches.

For the cabin fever (and you might want to read/check up a little on this), it's weird but isolating like this leads to bodily symptoms like fevers, sleepiness and difficulty in getting started with things, among other symptoms. Which of course also makes it harder to break out of, as it makes it that much harder to leave. But at least it's simple to break the cabin fever: you need to ( at your own pace) find novelty, get outside, have some social interaction, possibly also share touch. Don't push yourself too hard, and if possible consider enlisting help. Maybe you can start off by sitting outside in the sun for fifteen minutes, maybe you can take a walk and take a new route, maybe you can visit a museum. Maybe you have a person you can enlist to help you do any of these, maybe there's someone you can message and ask if they can help you get on a couple walks this week, or to go to the library and work on part of your application for a bit, or even hang out for a bit (if you're up for that). Take baby steps, not any one of these will be the cure, but together they stop the self-enforcing spiral of the cabin fever, and let's you build resistance and resilience over time.

This seems to in general be a helpful approach to combat mental unhealth: find ways to do strengthening activities. Just doing them disrupts the negative spiral, and even slight positive effects build over time to make you better equipped and less affected.

My checklist is basically: Sleep, hygiene, nourishment Get outside, exercise, breaking up the day Social interaction, touch, self care Something new, something I want, rest

And I try to do something, anything, in each of these categories every day, but I started out just trying to do one at a time.

It can be as simple as sitting at an open window for fifteen minutes, take a walk around the block, taking a massage or petting the local cat, make some cozy time with hot tea and a snuggly blanket. It's OK to adapt to your energy, comfort and executive levels, any effort into any of these will help break the spiral. If you feel stronger in one area than others, feel free to ramp it up. Just saying: if you're up to organising an orgy it will also tick many of the boxes at once (j/k).

As for the stress and feeling of loss of identity, you still have the capacity to do all of that, you might just not be in a situation that supports you enough right now. I'm sure you've heard that a little stress helps you get going, but too much will hinder you, this is one of the ways how. Which means you should probably stop pushing, and let yourself recover a little bit.

Exercise, green nature, and daylight all seem to get rid of the cortisol build ups. Also sleep, but that might not be your main concern currently. Minds also need help to let go for a bit so they can recover. Find an activity that distracts from the stress for a bit, can be a hobby, going for a hike, mindfulness meditation, gaming, or whatever. You'll probably need a lot of it for several days to recover fully, but usually looming stressors like an application don't allow for that, as they keep nagging at you in the back of the mind.

That's where stress/work management comes in, and you need to practice some methods to achieve clarity, confidence and progress on the actual task. The issue is seldom that you don't know of any good tools, but that they're too hard to implement currently, consider exploring other tools while you build back your strength. Perhaps a friend can help you tackle a part of the application, or help you sit down to work at it for an hour, maybe they can go through the process with you and plan out the steps, or you might need to just start from a new angle by yourself?

Tl;dr: Accept that you're not at your best right now, work lovingly to strengthen and support yourself, enlist help and tools to circumvent your obstacles, and you have every chance of getting better.

So, I've also been there. You're not alone in this. You're not broken or damaged. You're ill. The problem is knowing what you "should" do and doing it are VERY different things. But I highly encourage you to do something. Literally anything. You don't have to want it, you don't have to like it. Just go take a walk. It just has to be 10mins. The application will not run away. You're scared of the change. I know. It's super scary. Your feelings are valid. The person you were is dead. Let them lie. The time is now. It's always only now. Breathe.

Top 3 Tipps: shut down your pc and phone for a time each day. Move your body. Do something for yourself. Something you usually enjoy. Even if you don't feel like enjoying it now. It can be so small: a bath, a nice cup of tea, make art, sing a few songs out loud, light a candle.

Good luck. Please report back

I discovered this community and your post today. A lot of what you wrote rings familiar to me. It's a cycle I am always afraid of because I know how easy it is to slip in and how hard to get out.

I start avoiding a thing and it just keeps growing, I don't allow myself to do anything else really because the THING is still there. I distract myself with something irrelevant until I can't stop because once I do I think about THE THING and anxiety and self-hate bubble up. Too avoid these feelings, I need to keep distracted until I am too tired to keep my eyes on the screen. By this time, morning light is already disturbing my exhausted sleep. I wake up at noon, dehydrated, and go right back to distracting.

I think that everyone's replies are magnificent, excerpts from them got copied to my collection of good advice. I hope today finds you ok and I want you to know that you are not alone in your struggles.

I've been in holes similar to this, eventually finding the right medication is the only thing that lifted me out. Once I thought I was gone forever, could hardly talk, same as you head full of memories of the person I used to be. But the right anti-depressant (and getting off anti-psychotics) pushed the right brain buttons and I was able to get out.

Things can take time to change, but they can and will change, I'm sure of it. This isn't your fault, there's a new you in your future.

I'm late to this post, but how has your progress been since then?

I read your post a couple of hours ago, and thought about it--and I'm so glad you've been able to make some moves toward resolution.

One thing I keep thinking about, which you may not have had a chance to address: what is so troubling about the application?

Does it lead you to activities you don't want to perform? That is, if your application is accepted, and you complete the tasks that you've applied for, will you be happy, satisfied, fulfilled during and after those activities? Perhaps you have some deep sense that you don't want to go where this application takes you. Or perhaps your stumbling block is fear of failing at the tasks once you are admitted. Perhaps even your subconscious resistance is symbolic--it's a next step in growing up, moving on to the next phase of your life, and that brings all sorts of uncertainties, worries, opportunities to experience problems.

In any event, I think you've found one key to getting through the mental block: you broke the cycle by doing something (anything!) that breaks the pattern--getting out for a walk and a tram ride. Hooray!

Another key, I think, is that you mention missing doses of medication. Psych meds can do strange things to the mind, and sometimes (as you point out) the body/mind needs to adjust and ride out the change. Skipping doses can make you "think things you're not really thinking"--can shift brain chemistry in ways that make you believe the mental states are arising internally, when in fact they are chemically induced. Skipping doses can play havoc with your mental state. If the meds aren't working, or seem to be creating more problems than they solve, by all means ask your psych for a change--but it's not helpful to change the schedule of dosing just because you feel (or don't feel) like doing so.