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I remember joking at ~16 or 17 about being a lesbian trapped inside a man's body.
Turns out that was not 100% untrue 😬😅😜
.. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
❤️🧡💛🤍🩷❤️💜
Edit:I'll note that the first crack in my shell, or realizing it was there at all didn't happen for another 15 years
I did the same thing around the same age (or a little older), and it also took me until my 30s to realize it wasn’t actually a joke.
It is shocking how similar that is to me, years and all
Łooking at other comments, it seems more common than I would have expected
Why do you have a fancy L?
For me it was an astute friend who noted it when I was 20.
We're still friends and that remains the consensus.
Are you saying your friend told you that you were a egg and you hadn't noticed?
Very much so.
I was always so proud of my smallish hands/wrists and would always compare them with girl friends and be like “LOOK OUR HANDS ARE ALMOST THE SAME SIZE! 🥰”
Or the time my ex was walking around topless while I was programming and asked how I wasn’t turned on and I grabbed my tits and said I have them too what’s the big deal lmao.
At a car show, at the booth to pick up my free T-Shirt, I was asked "what car are you?" and I responded "I identify as a Ford Focus". I get that might sound a bit offensive because of the "one joke" thing but I thought it was a funny response, and I didn't mean it in an offensive way. That was before my egg cracked anyhow, and the person at the booth got a kick out of it.
I have never once heard "real men don't eat quiche" that seems like some really bizarre gatekeeper rules.
I 🩷 quiche too btw
This is where it comes from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Real_Men_Don%27t_Eat_Quiche
Interesting! I will have to check it out because I've never heard of it. But then again, growing up in a misogynistic, evangelical, smallish town, no one there was reading a book saying their ideas of manliness were stupid. Also I don't know when I ever first had a quiche.
So was it always more of a joke for you, or did people around you say stuff like that seriously?
The people around me said it in a "joking but not joking" way. I grew up in a small town in country Australia, but unlike yours, it wasn't particularly religious. They were conservative, racist, sexist, you name it, and that saying was enough of a thing for me to have heard it many times. I'm guessing, like me, most people didn't know where the saying came from though
Yeah, had no idea what it was from but the time frame adds up.
There was an American show called Ed, Edd, and Eddy where there was a slightly queer coded kid named Jimmy who brings a quiche to the cul-de-sac picnic and gets made fun of by the Eastern European coded “Foreign Kid” for cursing the picnic with a cursed food.
Always wondered why they chose quiche.
My friend took me out for my first drink and I think I had a mojito or something fruity and he was like "you know that's a girl's drink, right?" I was nervous, but still drank it... after spilling the first one by accident😅
Oh and I did the whole "I'm a lesbian" bit as well.