I live in a red state, and I always try to compliment when a dude wears polish because I think it takes courage to do that here. Which is so silly lol. How many dudes paint their cars or paint miniatures?
Men need color in their lives too
this post was submitted on 20 Aug 2023
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My favorite color is purple, and I remember having to develop a defense response as a result, which again only hardened my position that purple was my favorite color. I used to tell people that it was the color of royalty because it was a really expensive color to produce.
But variety in clothing/material expression for men would be nice. Man, I would love a good linen tunic, or kurta, or some harem pants. Tall clothing is hard to come by, and 90% of clothing is designed for wildly unrealistic male body types, and I'd love to just feel comfortable and socially acceptable at the same time.
Like, yoga pants are wild to me, and I feel like there is no real male equivalent. They're hella casual, but also professional enough for most work settings. I feel like those two attributes change simply based on how you accessorize them.
Livin in a blue state for the first time now, and I still compliment dudes rockin' polish every time I see it. Simple "I like your nails", usually.
M/40 -We were going on a cruise and the wife and kid were going to get a mani/pedi so I went and got one too. It was a good experience.
Doing it right before the cruise turned out to be a bad idea though because they aggressively exfoliate your feet and man were my feet tender at the beach.
I don’t need a manicure but I think everyone should have their footcare professionally done.
I spend so much time at work typing that the hand treatment felt awesome. One of those, you don't know till you know situations.
Good for you. I've gotta admit I've always been tempted - I just imagine it would feel really nice. Can you get it without the nail polish or clear? I'm just a bit of an introvert and don't like to attract attention!
You can definitely get no polish or clear. The foot/calf massage most places give is worth the pedicure for sure. If you end up feeling like a dash of color the nice part about doing toes is they are very easy to have covered in social settings.
I've never had mine painted but I love getting pedicures. The hot wax foot wrap is chefs kiss.
It was very nice. Seeing the ladies bust out the cheese graters for my lizard feet was amusing, but damn aren't they effective lol.
I did this once when my daughter didn’t want to go with my wife. Opted for orange toenails because it’s the color of our cat. Would definitely do again. I have never had the courage to paint my fingernails but should someday…
I have to imagine a fair number of dads would have just not gone either. No doubt your daughter appreciated it!
No, I went with my wife because my daughter stood her up but yes she did appreciate it 😄
I got mani-pedis with my mom on numerous occasions as a teenager! It was always a blast and the workers so kind. I remember conversations about movies we enjoyed, college majors, etc.
They managed to work around my horribly bitten nails regularly. Never painful, somehow. Don't regret it for an instant. This post has inspired me to get one again if and when I can afford it!