I had a dream where my partner died. When I woke up I have never been more relieved that it was just a dream. It's made me the happiest and most appreciative I've been in a long time.
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Had a similar experience? My current partner are high school sweethearts, and we started taking after I was rejected by my first crush. In the dream my first crush was flirting a lot with me and I started to panic because "oh god I dont wanna leave my boyfriend I love him!" And eventually told them to sod off.
Woke up with the biggest feeling of relief in my life.
Dont really remember my dreams at all but just wanted to drop in and say that it was nice reading about your dream and sorry for your loss
I dreamed Iwas back in high school and every class was replaced with a single class the school claimed covered every education basis. The class was called cool knitting and it was just a sweatshop. I woke up houling with laughter
Just the other day I had a dream about my wife and I hiking in the Pyrenees mountains. It had been her wish to one day visit them again as she grew up in a small town sorrounding them. She often went there with her family in her youth but never managed to do a full adventure hike along the southern ridge. Before she passed away I had made a promise to her that we would make an effort to see them one last time. Her illness progressed more rapidly than we could have anticipated and alas I was not able to keep my promise. That dream made me feel nostalgic for her presence again and in some way I believe it offered some solace for my regrets of dissapointing her.
I don't want to come across as if I know better, but I would like to offer an alternate view.
You might not have kept that promise, but you've kept many others, which might be more important than that.
It is easy to feel down on that one missed promise while many more were kept. We are human after all and some promises are broken.
Life is an infinite series of missed opportunity. It seems dark, but to me, it's comforting because I don't have that obsession that I need to do everything in fear of missing out anymore. I can feel more in the present and enjoy all the memories I create with my loved ones.
And more than that, knowing that many opportunities will be missed because of the nature of life, I can enjoy the opportunities I do have more because I know I've made time for them.
You've made time for many opportunities with your wife. Be proud of that.
I want to offer you my sincerest condolences and I hope that life is treating you right.
Thank you, I appreciate the sentiment. Cherishing the moments we have with our loved ones represents the moments that are most important, I agree. It was comforting to see her again and to somewhat be held true to my word, in some way. I wish you all the best. Keep well my friend.
Last night I had a dream that I found a big comfy sweater and I thought "this would look really good with tights!"
I didn't realize it was a dream until I woke up and put on tights, realizing it never actually existed. I don't even know what it looks like, I just know I loved it!
The ones that make me happy are when passed family members or pets stop by for a visit. I remember having one dream where my grandmother, (who passed in February), interrupted one of my dreams and I got to finally give her a hug goodbye. For a while my dog Skipper, a skipperkey, would show up and talk to me. She was blind and fearful in her last years so it was quite relaxing to know she was alright.
The ones that make me happy are when passed family members or pets stop by for a visit.
Those kinds of dreams make me really sad. I'm always so happy in the dream thinking I was wrong that they were gone and then when I wake up and realize it was just a dream... it's hard.
Not sure if OP was talking about in the dream or not. For me at least, how I feel about it would be completely opposite.
Me too. I had a (nonlucid) dream similar to OPโs, but I have siblings and we fought about time with our mother in the dream. I woke up crying and feeling guilty for not having shared better.
thanks, OP. that was such a nice read.
mine is: having dinner with the woman i loved. we sat beside each other and talked the night away. it was punctuated by laughter and every word just seemed right.
reality is we dont talk anymore.
I dream a lot.
The only dreams I think I've ever been happy in are ones where a lifetime passes, or years pass, with me living a full life happily in the dream. But then you wake up, and there is a heartbreak.
That's fantastic. Thanks for sharing.
Had a dream recently that I've defenestrated myself out of 10+ floor. It was calm actually and I've didn't die or was hurt. Just laying on the street till I've woken up.
Mine dreams just vanish a seconds I wake. I have tryed to treasure them for some time but they just gone. My life is not suitable for dreams, neither the ones that I make awake.
I've read that the best way to remember your dreams better is to start a dream diary. Write as much as you can remember as quickly as possible when you wake up, and you should gradually remember more and more.
Maybe, I feeling to forced to take a pen as soon I wake up, or even my phone. Actually I'm okay to forget it, you maybe lost some happiest one but aswell make it go the worst without feeling too bad.
Had a dream recently where I got to tell my now deceased grandparents how much I loved them. My grandpa suffered from dementia toward the end of his life and my grandma slipped away real fast a few years later before I got a chance to see her one last time so it was pretty meaningful for me.