SneakyWeasel

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[–] SneakyWeasel 15 points 11 months ago (12 children)

This is actually a philosophical problem. I think it's the parable of pacifism, if I remember right? Basically, the advocacy for total pacifism and acceptance of all groups doesn't work if one group is specifically advocating for the death of the others because then there's a net loss.

So yes. No nazis. Period.

[–] SneakyWeasel 9 points 11 months ago

I didn't use to either shower or bathe but it was a mental health issue: I went though both depression, which didn't help, and I didnt have good showering habits due to being kinda aquaphobic. If water hit my face at all I would think I'd die (pretty dumb I know). Nowadays I bathe pretty much daily. Having a detachable showerhead helps a lot so I don't have to deal with water on my face.

[–] SneakyWeasel 1 points 1 year ago

It's being talked about, but so far it's not completely debunked, and it's a good starting point in discussions about partnerships anyways. People don't clearly fit just one of the categories, of course, but to say it's completely debunked is also wrong.

 
[–] SneakyWeasel 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Sorry, the comment said "have you down voted the comment above" and I thought you were referring to him being non understanding of the original root commentor. My bad.

[–] SneakyWeasel 4 points 1 year ago

From another autistic person, it really varies from person to person. I despise staring intensely at strangers, but when it comes to my partner, I adore it. It probably has to do more with the level of trust than inherently not being able to look at someone in the eyes, but it might just be a me thing.

[–] SneakyWeasel 5 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Dude, most of the comments are trying to be supportive of this guy. I'm pretty sure we've all felt broken when we were diagnosed. I thought I was unlovable and would never have friendships or a partner, and eight years later I just celebrated my five year anniversary. Shit gets better, but not if you stay on the cycle of thinking you're just broken and it will always stay like that. Whether you want to believe that or not, that's your prerogative.

[–] SneakyWeasel 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Personally I find this form of thinking far more dangerous: I come from a country in which being "mentally disabled" would literally mean me being unable to function in polite society, and being a "retard" is something pretty common, even with adults. The fact I was undiagnosed autistic until I left saved me. Sure you don't function like everyone else, and yeah, it's hard - trust me -, but to say you're broken is basically undermining everyone else that has the same condition as you.

[–] SneakyWeasel 8 points 1 year ago

I guess it's cus everyone has a different standard of what pollution is for them. For me, the sound of windchimes calm me, I find industrial air vents relaxing, and church bells oddly peaceful, but can't stand someone even driving near me, dogs barking, babies crying, or fluorecent lights flickering. But you know, people need to drive, dogs and babies need to talk, and the world goes on.

[–] SneakyWeasel 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I know this is kinda off base, but the Temple of Satan has churches, and they're absolutely pro gay and pro trans. They're the anti mainstream religion, basically.

[–] SneakyWeasel 12 points 1 year ago

I literally eat oatmeal raw and dry like a godamm horse eating out of a trough. Yes I have a problem.

[–] SneakyWeasel 2 points 1 year ago

I'm in college RN, taking three classes, and literally just last week i was working so much to keep up with all the classes homework I started from 9am to 10pm with no breaks (online) with only the 5 min eating break every so often. If it was a 9-5 I would have been done and have time to spare for other crap. Fuck this idolizing the past "9-5 is evil" bullshit.

[–] SneakyWeasel 54 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Sharing this: don't know why this works, but my dad found refreshing the cache in UBlock makes this thing finally shut the fuck up.

 
 
 
 
 
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We have mixed feelings

 

Ever since 1992, the idea of the 5 love languages has spread all over our culture. Published by marriage counselor Gary Chapman in his book "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts", Chapman proposed there were 5 main ways in which humans expressed their love to each other:

1: Physical Affection. Any form of physical touch, even ones with no sexual undertones. Things like hand holding, nuzzling, hugs, and other forms of contact appear here.

2: Acts of service: Generally seen as doing chores or undergoing difficult tasks for your partner. These could be seen as simple things that ease stress, such as dividing housework.

3: Gifts: Seen as both giving and receiving gifts, people trend towards showing affection by giving items to the person they care about. To note, the price of the item does not matter more than the sentiment behind it.

4: Words of Affirmation: Seen as any positive meaning word. While usual phrases like "I love you" land here, it's considered any form of communication that reaffirms love to the person's partner.

5: Quality Time: While simple, people prefer spending time with this person simply engaged in activities with the other. Of note, these are to be done as uninterrupted and as engaged as possible. Examples can range from having a conversation alone, to playing games or other activities.

While the veracity of the 5 love languages has been questioned over time (namely that people don't fall neatly into 5 categories and there's much overlap), it has aided people in understanding how to relate to their partners better.

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As such, I'd love to know what you think of the 5 love languages, whether you believe it works or not, and whether you have any interesting stories regarding this concept! As always, have a wonderful day, and remember you are loved.

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"Useless" by XKCD (lemmy.world)
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This comic is also known as "The Love Equation", and might be one of the most famous XKCD comics.

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"Together" by XKCD (lemmy.world)
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Insecurities (lemmy.world)
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