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[–] The_Picard_Maneuver 60 points 1 year ago (2 children)

When I hear this, I wonder if people are playing the wrong types of games for them. Most AAA games have great graphics and cutscenes, but the core gameplay loop is just tedious and feels like you're following a GPS from chore to chore. I don't fault anyone for feeling bored with 10hr interactive movies.

I still love games that challenge me and offer a real risk of failure, for example. If there's no chance of losing, then beating the game just feels like "finishing" it, like how you would describe a movie or TV show. I'd get tired of that too.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (2 children)

To be honest with you, I think a lot of it is just a factor of adulthood.

Between work and life, I don't have the energy to start a new game, even though I daydream about playing video games all the time.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah that‘s my point as well. I play games on the lowest difficulty possible because after a day of work I do not want to be grinding during my free time. And even on easy mode it‘s sometimes just too tiresome.

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[–] eochaid 46 points 1 year ago (1 children)

All entertainment fills a need in your daily life. It only makes sense that the need changes as you grow older.

When I was younger, I was poor and had something to prove. Thus, I loved big games with hundreds of hours of gameplay, grinding for the best bobbles, and competitive multiplayer experiences.

But as I get older, I don't care about any of that anymore. What I need instead is a way to relax within my short gaming windows, to have unique experiences, and maybe have a sense of control as my life gets more chaotic. As a result, I've tended more towards shorter indie titles. But also towards non-gaming things like travel, gardening, and crafting hobbies.

We spent so much of our lives building our identity around a single hobby - gaming. And maybe that was a mistake. So many of us end up sliding away from gaming as we get older and that change is okay and even expected, that shouldn't give us an existential crisis.

Your identity should reflect the person you are, not the thing you do.

[–] BongRipsMcGee420 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Getting old is strange. I keep trying to go to house or techno shows in the basement of restaurants or other weird places, convinced it'll be a great time because I used to enjoy it. My knees hurt and I'd rather be home most of the time. It's okay for things to have a beginning, middle, and end. Also, not to be nitpicky but just because I think it's a fun word: it's "baubles"

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[–] Warfarin 39 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Play a good game, stop playing the same zoomer-bait crap

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I've gotten into gaming more again by simply sticking with indie games. No more 100 hour boring open worlds.

[–] iamnotdave 17 points 1 year ago

There is Something about a simple two hour game about a guy and his girlfriend getting stuck in the woods fending off the mothman.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

Now I only have game sessions that last for about 10+ minutes and only about 3 times per day at most.

My enjoyment in gaming has died out a few months ago and I have only been working for one year(23yo). My friends are still trying to get me back to Valorant and I'm having trouble explaining I have so many other important things that I need to do other than grinding Valorant. I just don't have the time to improve my skill at that game because it requires so many hours and so many of those hours could give me a good coding project for my portfolio.

Screw this capitalism society.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly I've always hated any online coop / multiplayer game unless it had a significant single player aspect to it.

Multiplayer games are more like work, they aren't just for enjoyment.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That's quite true actually. I've had way more enjoyment playing singleplayer games than multiplayer games(unless they are casual coop like Stardew and the like) nowadays.

I still like fps but it requires too much effort.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I stopped playing online competitive games a while back, the last ones were overwatch (1) and dota. Now I almost only play solo games and I have a lot of fun. Currently 110+ hours in TOTK and I'm far from done with it. It's a category that's far from dead and there are any flavor that could fit your tastes.

The only online game I keep playing is MK8D because frustration never last long and there's no ELO ranking to be obsessed with. Also Splatoon once in a while.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Competitive games ruin the mood a lot for me. I know it differs from person to person, but as a person who usually takes games seriously it's hard for me not to care about my skill within the game. It took me a pretty long period to stay away from competitive/skill-based gaming(fps and rhythm games) to be able to treat games as a casual thing.

[–] GregorGizeh 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Don’t get suckered into internalizing the exploitation mindset like this. Use your free time to have fun with your friends without a guilty conscience, don’t think about what more productive thing you could be doing for your portfolio instead.

You won’t be starving because you spent some hours having fun, and on your death bed you won’t be thinking fuck, I wish I had spent more time working and making money. You will be thinking about your friends and loved ones and the good times you spent together, like fucking around playing shooters.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Games (mostly MMO) feel like chores to me now, sometimes it even like a second job. Grinding the same endless tasks for hours, go there, do this, kill that.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Baldurs Gate 3 is the cure for me. It probably also helps that I haven't played that type of game in ages.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Exactly, its not that I'm not interested in gaming anymore. It's that none of the games released recently are worth playing.

In an endless sea of call of dooty clones and other derivative drek finding something decent has become hard. I want new ip damn it, not yet another remake or sequel.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This isn't unique to video games*. It can happen with anything that you spend a ton of time on, and either burn out on or start to develop more refined taste in. I've had it happen with:

  • novels
  • board games
  • movies
  • people

You start to see patterns, tropes, or just plain get burnt out on something. It's a sign you either need to take a break, or that your tastes have simply become refined enough that you require a higher bar to find something interesting.

I'm in my 40s and definitely don't play games as much as I used to. But there are still times I get sucked in and have a great time. Most recent example: Cosmoteer, a spaceship building game with loads of freedom and creativity. I'm also looking forward to the Factorio DLC and the Dyson Sphere Program combat update.

Edit: case in point that I can still get excited about games: I finally tried Shadows of Doubt and, wow, what an interesting game. It's like a Deus Ex shadowy sneak-around world with detailed voxel simulation.

* though the enshittification phenomenon is a real thing, and why people should play more indie games

[–] menemen 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Stop playing for a while and the love might come back (was like that for me).

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

from what ive heard trying different genres might help

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Idk if it is me getting older or if videogames just suck now.

[–] bluegiraffe 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Its not your age, it's the games you're playing. There's a ton of great games out right now, but if you're playing the same kinds of games you've always played, maybe you've outgrown them. You could be frustrated with their mechanics, or think their progression isn't as good as the old games, maybe you cant see as well or grind as hard as these twelve year olds on adderall, whatever it may be.

Try playing games you enjoyed before. You'll probably still like them. Branch out into different genres, even if it's something you don't know if you'll like or not. I don't care for top down games, but gave Hades a try and absolutely loved it. Maybe try to play remakes/remasters/new takes on old games. The REmakes for Resident Evil (particularly 2&4, I liked 3 but it gets a lot of deserved hate), and even the continuation of the RE franchise in Biohazard and Village are fun and scary. Just some recommendations. :)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Definitely changeling taste and enshittification. Don't care to play another million dollars AAA fps-box purchaseing simulator or whatever this years dead horse is.

Get me a chill basebulding and automation game and I will literally risk unemployment from staying up late. Bonus points for boobs or warcrimes.

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[–] Baphomet_The_Blasphemer 16 points 1 year ago (4 children)

You're getting older unfortunately. I've been watching this happen among my friends for a long while now. They all slowly grow up and leave gaming behind replacing it with other hobbies or interests. Your free time becomes more limited the older you get and the more responsibilities you aquire in life (career, spouse, children, etc.). I'm one of the last hold outs from my childhood friend group, and even I'm slowly starting to lose interest in gaming. I don't think I'll ever give it up entirely, but it definitely doesn't hold the same appeal for me that it once had.

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[–] ClaireDeLuna 8 points 1 year ago

I would argue it's a side effect of getting older.

Not that you're growing out of games, but moreso that you're spending more time working, and doing other life related things that gaming no longer feels productive of fun.

I'm working full time and take online classes, but I really love gaming still, I've just had to find games that respect my time, since my time is so precious to me right now.

I've grown to loath multiplayer match-based games because it's the same thing over and over again with nothing to show for it, while things like DOOM, Skyrim, Dishonored, older assassins creed games, and various indie titles are all quick, fun, to the point and offer good stories that I enjoy.

I just can't deal with round after round after round of the same thing. Or an MMO where it's just "Do this for hours and hours to grind out this skill and that skill"

Like I want to play the game, not click 30,000 times.

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[–] GRENADE_MAGNET 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m definitely feeling this.

My schedule makes it hard to play online with people I know and I hate playing with randos.

I switched to single player games on easy mode just to be able to make progress and get through some of my huge backlog of games.

It is starting to feel a little forced though.

[–] ClaireDeLuna 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

Take a break, try something different.

Playing on easy instead of challenging yourself just go get through it is making the games worse for you in my opinion. Edit: This was a bit heavy handed, easy mode is fine I just meant to suggest harder difficulties

Weirdly I enjoy playing most games on hard or higher despite not having a ton of time. A level a day, of even every other day is fine. The game can wait for me especially in single player.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

Honestly I have less and less love for videogames that streamlined the gameplay into a cookie cutter trope.

I noticed having way more fun when playing indie games because you never escape the wierd shit develloped industry free from the general gamplay loops.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Use to do 10-15 hours on a free day. Now I have a hard time doing 1-2 without having to take a break.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

I started feeling this way especially with the intro of micro transactions in games like Cod. Went back to play older games I've said I wanted to play at some point which has kept the flame lit.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Ok going through this now.

I never thought it’d be like this though. I thought that video game would literally stop being fun. Like I’d grow out of them or something and not find them enjoyable anymore.

But that’s not it. They are still fun and enjoyable. What I didn’t expect was that my mind would be so full of responsibilities that it would just be impossible to enjoy video games. As if there just isn’t enough room in my brain.

I’m sitting there trying to play but I’m just thinking about all the things I need to do tomorrow. Or this week. Or this month.

There is just too much to think about that I can no longer enjoy not thinking.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I play different games is the big difference. Lots of singleplayer of various genres. I really like engineering games, colony builders and RPGs.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

This was me, until I discovered Super Tux Kart a few months ago. I play at least 2 hours a day of that game.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Play some games completely different from what you're used to.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I stopped reading for maybe a decade when I started post-secondary education. I tried books during that time but it wasn't until finding an author that resonated with me that the interest picked up again. I still mostly only read that author now but I try other authors in between.

Same with video games. I will slowdown or stop for a while but eventually pick it back up again when the right thing comes along.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

My enjoyment of games didn't die, but my tastes in genre changes. Online FPS just isn't for me anymore, I now prefer slower single-player story games

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm in my late 20s and have realized two things about video games

  1. I've invested hundreds of hours into games and I've got absolutely nothing to show for that time investment, and basically nothing to brag about at work or to friends
  2. The last couple of years I've been more often playing games to pass time than for the actual love of whatever game I'm playing

So I've been trying to spend my time doing other things. If there isn't a compelling game I want to play at that moment I don't just play games until I find one that compells me again, I just do something else entirely.

My wife on the other hand has realized she really enjoys video games and sees it as "look at all of this time I could have spent playing video games and experiencing these things!" So I suppose that gives some perspective that it's not all for nothing

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've legit spent 50 hours modding Skyrim to play for like 9 - 15 hours and then moving on until the itch to play Skyrim come back and I spent another 50 hours modding testing something different.

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[–] thorbot 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I stopped being as interested in video games and gravitated toward board games. It’s an activity I can do with friends around a table instead of sitting alone staring at a screen. And the same puzzles are present in board games plus you get the social aspect.

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[–] x4740N 6 points 1 year ago

That's just burnout

[–] amansman 5 points 1 year ago

So I know this is a meme but I wanted to say that if anyone out there, particularly younger people, finds this ringing loudly true to their own experiences, you may be experiencing medical depression. Sure you get more responsibilities as you get older and your passions change, but if you notice something feeling off about this sensation and many things you formerly enjoyed you start avoiding because forcing yourself to enjoy them just makes you feel crappy, it isn't necessarily normal.

I say this because I went through it and I didn't get help until my late 30s and I regret every day that I didn't. There is nothing wrong with asking for help, talking about it with others, and not accepting it as a "normal" part of growing up. Without help it will take a toll on your career and relationships and your health.

Reach out.

[–] tdawg 5 points 1 year ago

As a child who grew up with nothing but a family computer I dreamed for the day we would have free games everywhere. Boy did I get my wish

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