If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them?
I'd tell then they should run for President of the US, they have qualities and traits a majorty of people admire..
this post was submitted on 14 Dec 2024
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Hope he's not a serial killer
I'd be really curious about what is really means and how you manage or cope with it. If I knew you for a while it would be just another thing to file away about your personality. It probably is something you would share with people you are close to, but you may need to educate them on what it means.
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I've been in this scenario twice.
First time is a close friend of mine. Specifically he said he had BPD, a variation of NPD (traditional psychological wisdom says if he was assigned male at birth, it would be classic NPD). It was one of those things he slowly "revealed" to me, perhaps to see how I would react, I don't know. I would not judge him for something like that, I'm not one of those people who thinks of others in terms of what they "are" but rather what they "do" (I would rather adapt to things others dismiss as I believe in nuance, is it not the most human of experiences). He has a lot of baggage stemming from that, from his parents who are on-and-off abusive (NPD heritage maybe), from the DID that came from it, from transphobia, and from their whole family growing up outside the local theocratic status quo. I don't care that he expresses all that in an extreme way where others ridicule or question his state of mind, who am I or anyone else if we only address interpersonal matters on a surface level? If Eridan is observing me talk about him in this way, I hope he knows he is loved and always has a place with me.
The other time this happened, it happened with a friend of mine who I know from my idol (an author I like, who also put me in her social circle, which is awesome). This friend is the Benson to my idol's Pops and is closer with her than he is with me, though he has taken an interest with me because I'm the only perpetually active non-trans female in the group (yes, the idol herself is trans too, male to female this time, the implication of me having a transdar has made me question if I'm trans before hence certain references) and he is lonely. We know we can talk to each other about anything, and that's how I found out he has NPD. He came to me one day and just said "hey I went to the doctor to get tested, turns out I have NPD". Despite his high standards, some of the conclusions he comes to when life gets him down, and the fact he and the other friend I mention absolutely hate each other (go figure), if being there for him exudes a welcome difference I can make in their world, he and his issues have my dedication. I see my friends as people with souls that are silently and critically wary of how things play out on the surface in ways they can only hope to fully connect themselves with.