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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.

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The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Last week I read the gender dysphoria bible and after a few days thinking about it I am coming to accept that I am trans. Everything clicked into place and I feel like I've been electrified. My mindset is completely different and I am actively looking forward to things happening in my life. I want to come out and transition eventually but right now I just want to try wearing different clothes, even if it's just in my room. I'm going to buy some thigh socks since I've always wanted to wear them but I'm 5'10" and my thighs are kind of big so I'm not sure if I can just buy any pair since cis women are usually smaller. Does anyone know any good quality socks I could buy online that ship in discrete packaging?

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Check out sockdreams! They have some great thigh high socks that come up halfway on MY thighs (I’m 6’4”) and they’re very comfy. If the socks are having trouble staying up, you can get some garters like another comment suggested. I got my garters through sockdreams as well.

If you want more fem clothes, I get a lot of my stuff from Torrid. Decent quality for the price, and they have a lot of clearance stuff which helps a lot with the cost. I have some really well fitting jeans from Abercrombie and Fitch, too. Plus size stuff is a safer bet since it often has long/tall options.

Best of luck!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

@deranged_physicist

@knower

This a hundred. I'm 5'5" but been a thicc chick for life and I gotta tell ya they can even work MY giant calves.

[–] fireweed 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

SockDreams.com stocks tube socks (good for larger feet) and extra long socks (good for large/long legs). They also have a lot of pride designs! Their physical shop is in Portland, OR, USA.

Edit: don't forget to buy sock glue

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Everyone else seems to be on the same page with that site, I've never heard but definitely also checking it out, but my main advice is definitely order bigger. My dumb ass knowing I'm big even for male sizes still ordered female L and expected to fit. (it technically does, but is at the elastic's limit)

Also don't buy online while frustratedly drunk.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Also, it can be wonderfully helpful to take your measurements! You can measure hip, bust, inseam, etc, by looping a piece of string around your body and then measuring it. Most clothing brands have size charts that let you match your measurements to their size rules. Remember that just because you’re a size 20 in one brand doesn’t mean you’ll be a size 20 in another, always check the size charts.

[–] VirulentAura 3 points 1 year ago

Before I started my journey of self discovery, one of my favorite pair of socks are some (unfortunately male style) knee-high socks. Been slowly been coming to the realization that it was because they made me think that it was similar to how stockings felt. I even called them my stockings for the past year. Wore them under my jeans all the time at work, and if anyone saw them, it wouldn't even turn heads.