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I have an issue with being bored and depressed alot, i take meds but i stil feel like osmething is missing. is there a solution to deal with theses things becasue i feel constanly bored, are there any tips or sulutions to solve this? also i rant about being bored to everyone even the internet.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Find a hobby, learn a new skill, keep occupied. That's it, there's not much to it, you're not going to magically feel unbored without keeping active.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

are there any hobbys worth getting into? becasue i feel kinda lost.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

That's a very personal decision, not one can tell you what makes you tick... Do you like food? Start baking... Do you like anime? Start drawing... Do you like nature? Start hiking... Plants? Start gardening...

[–] JoeKrogan 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Learn a language and go to a language meetup. Yoga or other exercise, martial arts . Cooking and nutrition. Meditation.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Go for a walk. It doesn’t matter how long or how far you go but simply getting up and moving resets your mind. Walk in a different direction, listen to some music, podcast or audio book to change things up.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Meditation is probably what you're looking for. It basically teaches you to accept that bored feeling and just feel it. You're probably just seeking out the dopamine hits too much so you need a good reset. I struggle with the same problem sometimes and I definitely need to meditate more.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

volunteer in your local community and meet cool people

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Start trying hobbies until you find something you enjoy.

[–] MiddleWeigh 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think you should look in to some mindfulness practices.

Why are you bored? Are you really even bored? What is boredom? How do I feel and how do I change that.

Its a super simple concept but it really helps in self betterment, dealing with emotions, ans getting to the core of your own desires and helps to lead a more fulfilling life where you actually do the things you want to do because you actually want to do them.

Retrain how you perceive boredom. Its your mind and body telling you something. Listen.

Also, a quote I heard when I was younger has always stuck with me. "Don't do what you love, love everything you do" . Basically, try to put your all into everything and take pride in even the smallest of tasks. I've found its very helpful as far as mental health is concerned.

Personally I play guitar and drums and write my own stuff. I always can fall back on that because it's something I LOVE to do. Find something you really love and stick with it. Get good at it.

Make the most of your time here.

[–] SkipWapPallyPap 4 points 1 year ago

I think joining a local league or group with something that interests you. I found curling. The first year you get to know people and even if you end up grouped with people who you don’t 100% click with you will be able to find other people who share an interest and would probably group with you the next year.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Not really answer to your question but... https://youtu.be/LKPwKFigF8U

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

For me, the best prescription has been scheduling things for myself. Even mundane things like "I'm going to check the air in the tires tomorrow." But also "That movie I've been meaning to watch for ages will be watched by me next Tuesday."

Then, I try to keep a running mental list of things I can be doing, but which have no particular priority - reading, playing a video game, watching something, ticking a chore off the to-do list. If I'm feeling indecisive, that's a sign that maybe none of the things on my list are any better than the others, and so I'll pick one at random and force myself to get it started and put my whole attention into it. That's usually the hardest part. Once I get going and force myself to put the phone away and engage with something, it's easier to melt into it, and I'm no longer bored because I'm now busy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Self-host Lemmy (and a bunch of other stuff).

Read a book. Read another.

Learn an instrument. Youtube is helpful for this.

Start going to the gym, every day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Have kids. Only partially joking, because I wish I had time to be bored.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

This in combination with a full time job. After the kids have gone to bed, I'm too tired to be bored.

[–] MothBookkeeper 1 points 1 year ago

Sounds like you've already been to talk to someone, since you've got the meds, but finding the right talk therapist can make an enormous difference. Specifically, one that is experienced in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which is proven in studies to be very effective. Don't be afraid to see someone else if it isn't working out.

Or do shrooms, I'm not your mom.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Not sure what medications you're taking obviously, but it may be worth researching ADHD. If you often feel bored, struggle greatly with keeping up routines as hard as you try, start new hobbies and quickly lose interest, starting things is very difficult.. those are all symptoms of ADHD.

Another thing, I think, if you maybe stay bored because it feels overwhelming to like, go ride your bike or start something involved, lower your expectations of the activity. Instead of a long bike ride. Take a walk around the block. And any time you might have a small spark of motivation to get moving, take it! Don't wait because that wave may subside and it'll be hard to get started when it's too late.

Now, if you do participate in things, and try new stuff, but you even feel bored then. It may be anhedonia if you feel like you can't access enjoyment. So might be worth looking at different depression or anxiety meds. Anhedonia is a tough one to try and overcome alone

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Get in touch with your instincts. If your mind and genome don't agree with what should be done either you get mania (genome gets tricked to funnel libido into strange places), or depression (genome takes away libido to starve away things in the mind it doesn't like). Neurotic behaviour in either case.

For starters, sit down and ask "ok, back of my mind, tell me about that boredom and us in general, I'm listening. What's up with that shit". Be wary of wishful thinking. Also, make some sandwiches, some tea, put everything in a backpack and take a walk.

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