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I've been starting to notice recently that I've most likely had gender envy at some point(s) in my past.

I guess the big question is, have you had any particularly notable instances of gender envy, or your first noticeable insurance of gender envy?

LFG!

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[โ€“] Hildegarde 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I was envious of girls' handwriting in elementary school. Also their faces looked so much better, I want.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Damn! At some point in being more comfortable with digital formats, I quit trying and now am self conscious about handwriting ๐Ÿ˜…

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Right! I felt the same with them having longer hair.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

When I was a kid, my family took a trip to Universal Studios. During one of the tours, there was a girl in a princess Jasmine costume. The moment I saw her I knew I wanted to wear that outfit. I told my grandma and the girl and they both didn't get it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Women fascinated me, but not in the straight man way of wanting to date them or whatever.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I've heard stuff like that a lot, but don't know if I really understand the idea of "I like them, but in a gay way" in an egg context. Is it a thing you can describe?

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It wasn't in a gay way (though there's that too), it was more envy but which I didn't know was envy.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Oh I see what you're saying now. I think that's some of the things I'm starting to realize about some memories.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I was incredibly fascinated by periods, later realized that it was my trying to experience that through their stories (would still love to experience periods with all the good and bad)

[โ€“] TotallynotJessica 1 points 3 months ago

There can be noticeable monthly cycles on HRT. No blood and no kids, but the rest of the experience is there. I mostly notice changes in mood and libido, but some transfems get debilitating cramps ~yay~

[โ€“] TotallynotJessica 2 points 3 months ago

My guy friend had his long hair braided to look very fem. I took pictures on a digital camera and would look at them, frustrated. Why the fuck did he get to be so cute? I was boyish and boring and gross, so I could obviously never look like that myself. Still, it did seem to be a better state of existence. I never understood why he cut his hair a few years later. Why wouldn't you want to look like a girl? ๐Ÿ˜ž