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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Top-Occasion7006 on 2023-07-17 20:13:56+00:00.
I have been with my gf for a year and I invited her to my family gathering for the weekend. She is introverted but I thought she would interact with my family a lot more than she did. She spent time with them a little bit but she mostly was in her own corner when everyone was partying. I checked in on her from time to time for a few minutes, but I haven’t seen my family in a long time and so I spent most of my time with them. She said she’s fine with it and that’s she’s having a good time. Then after everyone packed up, I was tired and I just wanted to relax on my phone and went to sleep without spending time with her at the end of the day (we have different rooms and didn’t sleep together).
The next day was the same deal. I finally came to spend time with her in her room at night and then after a few minutes said I’ll be going back to relax in my room, even though she asked me to stay longer as she had barely some alone with me all day. She got upset at me for inviting her to my family’s place and not spending time with her at least at the end of the day. She said she doesn’t know these people and that she’s fine with me spending with them, but that she can’t be as involved with them because she just met them. She said she at least wants me to spend with her at the end of the day when everything is packed up and done. I told her I was sorry and that I love her and that I’ll try to spend more time with her.
However, this is an issue that has been reoccurring (she thinks I don’t text enough, don’t go out with her as much, etc) in our relationship. She thinks I don’t spend enough time with her and says that’s her love language. I have told her I am not romantic and not that sensitive so it’s hard for me to notice when she needs me.
So last night she went as far to say that she thinks we’re better off as friends because I don’t satisfy her as a boyfriend. I told her that I’ll work on spending more time with her and that it’s hard for me to show my feelings, but she said she’s hesitant to give me another chance after all the times of the same issue reoccurring. Today she’s not talking to me much and I asked her if she’s okay and she said she needs time to think.
I think she’s expecting too much from me, and not being forgiving. So AITA?