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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/No-Platypus4935 on 2023-07-17 18:37:35+00:00.
My daughter is 21 years old and lives with me and her dad at home. She has just graduated from school with pretty good grades and she is currently working a full time job at a nursing home. She has always excelled at work and school getting lots of compliments from coworkers and bosses and teachers about her work ethic. She goes above and beyond in both settings. However the story is a little different at home.
Everywhere she walks she creates mess. I used to call her a walking disaster when she was younger because she has serious problems with keeping things clean. Her bathroom has clothes all over the floor and clutter on her sink, trash overflowing with honestly biohazards and shower and toilet has mold. Her room is another disaster. Dishes left in there for months with food still on it, clothes all over and everything goes on her floor so you can't can't walk across the room. She rewears all of her normal clothes for weeks but washes her scrubs weekly so I know she can do the work.
She complains that she has no energy but most people have no problem working and also cleaning and making food for themselves. She also says that she tries to clean but gets too overwhelmed or says she feels a weight keeping her down preventing her from doing things which sounds like an excuse. She also forgets things all the time and sometimes it feels like she has dementia because I have to remind her everything or else she will forget. Sometimes she can't even pay attention to a simple conversation long enough to understand us.
I told her she needs to see a doctor but honestly I just think these are excuses she is making to be a lazy ass. She keeps pushing off making an appointment and that seems like proof to me that she's making the whole thing up. No human being is this helpless. I don't know how she is going to survive on her own but I don't know what I did to make my daughter like this.
She got upset when I told her she just needed to pull up her bootstraps and stop being lazy but I think I'm in the right here. This is my house and I can't have the place in terrible condition anymore. I refuse to clean up after her because she needs to learn this lesson herself and not have to rely on mom. She has been like this her entire life and enough is enough.