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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/TryingDad_00 on 2023-07-17 18:36:33+00:00.
So my daughter, who we’ll call “Jane” (28F), and I have always had a rocky relationship. I wasn’t the greatest father and I recognize that now but I’ve changed. I know everyone talks shit on religion based treatments but I know I’m saved now and no one can tell me different.
I was in a car accident where I lost a lot of feeling in my legs. After that I swear I was reborn as a new man and promised I would do better but after everybody else’s reactions I’m starting to feel like maybe I did do something wrong.
My daughter’s wedding was this past weekend and she had her brother walk her down the aisle. Which I was fine with because I mean I wasn’t really there for her as a kid so why would I give her way. I found out from my wife/her mom that she still planned on having a father daughter dance at her reception but have her father-in-law dance with her instead of me. I figured she didn’t ask me because while I can walk, I can’t walk far and I’m super unbalanced. So with the help of my wife I worked on strengthening my legs in secret so I could surprise her at her wedding and dance with her.
Fast forward to the reception and they announce it’s time for the dance. I roll my wheelchair to the edge of the group circling her, stand up, and start walking towards her. Everyone in the room started talking and clapping around me as I made my way across the dance floor and honestly I was feeling really good about this until I made it like six feet away from her.
She started shaking her head and frowning at me but I kept walking anyway. She started shouting No and telling me to sit down but I just couldn’t believe that she was saying this so I shouted back that I was coming to dance with her as her father.
She acted all irritated and said she’d dance with me later but now it’s FIL turn. I couldn't accept that so I got closer and reached out for her hand hoping she’d recognize I was doing this for her when FIL reached out and blocked me from her by putting his hand on my chest. So then this is where I might have fucked up. I told him to back the fuck up and fuck off. Our argument got pretty heated before some people stepped in and separated us. She told me to leave and I said if that’s what you really want and she said yes so I did.
I’m really struggling with this because I got a lot of dirty looks and even my son yelled at me. He’s said it was really selfish of me to try to dance with her at all. I’m trying to do better and listen to my kids so maybe you all can tell me, AITA?