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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Jordan6605 on 2023-07-17 08:29:27+00:00.
My best friend and I recently graduated and have the whole summer to ourselves. We agreed we'd do things like shopping and go to parks and have picnics because we've always wanted to. Before we couldn't because we were always worried about school and our strict families. Plus, now, I have a car and money from my job.
It's been a little over a month since we've graduated and I noticed she's been going out a lot with her own friends. It always made me feel a little left out because while we are best friends, we aren't the type of best friends that always need to be together. We're both mature enough to know that we're allowed to have our own friends. Up until now, it didn't make me feel as bad because I had my own friends. It started making me really sad lately because I don't have many friends anymore. After I graduated, I let go a lot of them because we started growing apart. I basically have 3 friends, not including my boyfriend, and I'm ok with it.
It only started bothering me a few minutes ago when I checked my best friend's private Instagram where she posted a picture of one of her close friends and her dated at a day ago, but she had bangs. For context, we work at the same elementary school. I saw her on Friday and she did not have bangs. This past Saturday, she was supposed to go to a pool party with me and my family but said she mixed up the dates and had to babysit her cousins. I didn't mind that she canceled and went about my day. In my mind, this means she canceled our plans to hang out with her friends.
I knew a lot of her friends because many of them I went to elementary school with. I don't know them personally now, but we are all definitely friendly and have no bad feelings towards each other. I don't think I've done anything to make any of them dislike me and if I did my best friend would tell me right away.
I feel like I'm overthinking it and that if I brought this up to her she wouldn't understand. I also feel like I might be overreacting because I recently started the pill and it could be messing with my emotions. She's allowed to have her own friends and I do not have the right to tell her what to do, but I also feel left out because i just went from having a big group of friends to three where none of the others can make plans (one lives states away and the other is busy planning her move for college). I'm just hurt from the idea she might've flaked on me to see other people. I feel lonely and like i did something wrong. WIBTA if I asked my best friend to include me more in her outings with her friends?