Sadly, that's one only you are able to properly answer. That said, if you're worried that you're faking it,then you're probably not faking it.
this post was submitted on 10 Jul 2023
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I want to say I don't think worrying about faking is something anyone really needs to worry about. The only people I've heard tell people they were faking is truscums (they've told me that for being NonBinary). IMO identification is valid, if you identify as trans it's enough, if you don't that's also valid, there's no minimum criteria you need to meet to be valid in your identity.
If you think you might be trans and are worried that you are faking it. You probably arnt faking it. People don't unintentionally fake being trans.
Besides, there is nothing wrong with thinking you are trans and changing when you find a new label which you feel is more accurate. What's important is that you feel comfortable with your decision. No one will persecute for thinking you are trans and changing your mind.
Write an autobiography and sneak it onto a Florida library shelf. If it gets banned, then you’re officially trans!
Great idea! Too bad it's already gonna fail at the point I mention I'm pan
Stop thinking about it in a binary sense. Nobody's totally straight or totally gay. Nobody's totally masculine or totally feminine. Nobody's totally cis or totally trans. You're an individual, and if the recipe of these ingredients that makes you up makes you feel more one way than another, then it's true by your own definition, which is the only one that matters.
Others may think and say that you aren't far enough in the spectrum to qualify for whatever label, but how much these opinions matter to you is in your control. It may still bother you, that is difficult to escape, but you can at least choose not to let it define you.
Alt answer: If you need LEASE HELP, you should probably contact a lawyer in your local jurisdiction.
Thanks, your comment helped me too
May help to not worry about your gender and instead focus on what things you want or don't want. Do you want HRT? Do you want to change things about your presentation (such as clothing) or suspect you might (in which case, try it out in private). Do you want to change your pronouns or name? If you could magically change your genitals (without the option of going back), would you? Would you be willing to go through surgery for it?
You don't need to answer yes to any of those to be trans, but it might be easier to focus on concrete things like those than the nebulous thing of "what is my gender?"
There's no objective test for determining if you're trans or not. To me, being trans is simply a label you can choose to subscribe to (or not). It comes with some expectations, sure, but you're not obligated to hold yourself to any of those expectations--at all, if you don't want to.
Perhaps a more useful way to think about it is: do you think you would be happier to be perceived and treated as a different gender? I started off with the "button test." If you could press a button, and it would instantly change your gender and appearance to match what you envision, would you press it? What if the button took a week to work instead? A month? And so on, until you reach the logical conclusion: What if it took several months to years, wouldn't necessarily make you look perfect, and potentially had the risk of some negative side effects (i.e., worked exactly like hormone therapy)?
I'd also stress the importance of finding a good affirming therapist who will accept you as you are, but also give you more tools and ways of thinking about it that you wouldn't necessarily have on your own. I think, looking back, there were lots of "bad" reasons I wanted to transition (and some fantastic ones!) but it took a lot of time and introspection to sort those out since I didn't have someone to help guide me--some of the bad reasons were why I paused transitioning just to have some time to figure things out.
Take things at your own pace, don't push yourself to do or be anything you don't want to. Wishing you luck on your journey, wherever it leads! :)
I've been on hormones for a few months now and occasionally my brain will just be like, "what if I'm faking it and I'm not actually trans." Like, girl, for real? But if you're feeling that way it probably means you aren't faking it. If you really were, you wouldn't be worried about faking it.
I feel this more then I'd like lol.
I feel you brethren. Like I'm out here not telling anyone I may not be cis and still think I'm doing it for attention.
Seriously tho, if I can be of any assistance or you just want to rant/talk, don't hesitate to msg me :)
Much appreciated. And ya pretty much all inside thoughts but the photo fuckin nails it sadlmao.
This blog might help. It helped me back when I was questioning.
There is also That's Gender Dysphoria, FYI if you haven't read that.
Why would you be faking it?
What evidence do you have that you are trans?
What evidence do you have that you are cis?
Do you want to be trans?
Those are the starting questions?
Do you want to be trans?
If the answer to that question is not a very easy "absolutely not" then you probably are.
If the answer to that question is a very easy "absolutely not" the result is indeterminate.
My issue wasn't necessarily whether I was trans or not, but whether I was crossdressing or trans. The thing that really solidified it for me was whether or not I wanted to be my gender outside of other people.
Would I want to be a woman putting up dishes, doing my errands, sitting around playing video games. This isn't true for all trans people, especially gender fluid people, but it helped me solidify my feelings.
Everyone here are creating convoluted answers but it's actually quite simple. Do you want to identify as trans, if so that's good enough and anyone telling you otherwise is almost certainly gatekeeping (truscum).