I sound even more southern than I am because I say "y'all" frequently to avoid gendered pronouns. People, you, and we are often good. I think my favorite is "you folks".
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It depends on who you’re talking to. Many people don’t care about saying “guys” as it’s so universal. However, if you’re unsure or meeting new people, that’s where you’d likely want to change it up.
Hey friends! (This can be used for strangers too) What’s happening my peeps? Hello everyone! Hope you both have a good weekend
Or just What’s up? Hiya! Hey [insert their name]
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I like what they use on the Bananas Podcast. "Guys, gals, and non-binary pals."
People here are not understanding that language changes with location
"YOU PEOPLE" 😂 I'm kidding
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I've found a lot of success using pal for the individual and folk for the group. Such as "Jesse is my pal", or "Hey folks."
....oh shit. Palworlds a thing now. Don't use pal.
Guys is probably the most neutral of the ones you mentioned.
I tend to use "folks" for my usual gender-neutral collective pronoun.
I don't think "dude" is a real issue, is it? Here in Australia, I'll happily use mate for any gender, and I often hear other genders do the same.
Of course, we also tend to unnecessarily shorten (or lengthen) people's names here, and those always get used:
- Darren = Daz or Dazza
- Josh = Josho
- Dan = Danno or Danny-boy
- Adam = Ads
- [first name] Thompson = Tommo
- [first name] Johnson - Jonno
Even our Prime Minister, Anthony Albanese, is Albo. You get the idea... ;)
Dude its OK for me because you Know, the dude.
Pacifist as fuck, its a good name then. I don't feel it like man, etc. Even the majority when using it don't think about lebowski.
If i name someone dude, there is more than "man" behind. But I'm maybe wrong ?
Edit : oh sorry realized plurials.
People fine for me, its just an habit to change really. Or hey guys and girls or better, hey girls and guys 😂
But as non English speaker I could use dude for the group, and a my lady for her, if there is an fellow trans with me. Not others ofc. Will check thé answers for real lol
Mate Cunts Dickheads
Earthling...Terran - I don't care how awkward it sounds. It's awkward for me to change might as well make it awkward for everyone.
Edit: just me being cranky... Normally I go out of my way to make people feel accepted.
"Hello, losers"