I've personally used Proxmox in the past because it's easy to use, and it served pretty well for what I wanted to do (simple services like Headscale, Bitwarden, etc).

But I'm kind of a noob so you should probably ask more people.

It looks like [email protected] is more active and has become the "replacement" for r/selfhosted.

If you post there you'll probably get more helpful answers.

If you don't actually want to allow external untrusted people accessing your server, why go the VM route? That seems like a huge waste of resources and just complicates things compared to using containers (Podman is best IMHO).

Please do add a tag to your post as stated on the sublemmy sidebar! Thank you. :)

I like Promox for home, and XCP-NG for work. I'm just significantly more resource constrained at the house then work, so container management in the main interface is nice. At work, everything is a VM with containers on top (when needed)

Ive tried all the main "Homelab Hypervisors" in my lab. VMWare, HyperV, Proxmox, XCP-NG/XenServer. I always come back to proxmox because it offers all of the features I need (HA and Backups primarily) in an extremely easy to use fashion.

I had a great deal of problems getting XCP-NG/XenOrchestra's backup process to function correctly.

Proxmox Backup Server just works. Its the first time in many years of homelabbing/SysAdmin in general where a solution does what its supposed to without needing to contact support.