Asklemmy

It's perfectly natural to be scared of change but it is fruitless because change is going to happen whether you want it to or not. Even if you stay here, things are going to change. Remember that and use it to help you get past your fear of change.

You're also focusing on the negatives, what about the positives? What if this internship turns out to be the best thing you've ever done? What if it does lead you to wanting to stay there which then leads you to an amazing life that you love and makes you happy? Even if you stay here, you and your partner might not stay together and how would you feel if you gave up this opportunity and you guys break up 6 months down the road and you're full of regret for not taking the internship?

If I were you I would 100% take the internship abroad, that's an opportunity that the majority of people don't get. Take it!

I'm just a dumbass in my late twenties, but I encourage you to ignore the nervousness and make the most of this exciting experience abroad! Feeling lost and worried about the future is a normal part of being human, in my opinion. You'll figure it out.

Just enjoy the ride. Being alive is crazy. Don't take things super seriously, cause tbh, ain't nothing worth any amount of undue stress. Not your job, not your lover, nothing. Follow your gut. Try new things. You probably won't feel at home in your own skin until much later, and the journey to that point is the BEST.

Your gonna hit rough patches. Don't fear or hate that. Take it. It's experience, and it will all culminate into who you are.

Let yourself feel your emotions, and actually think about them. It's a great way to get rid of unwarranted emotions.

Try to be mindful. And try to be appreciative that you get to experience anything at all.

Look I fucked my life up. I fucked it up. But guess what? I wouldn't trade my experience for the fucking world. Never. So did I really fuck it up? I've always been me.

When it comes down to it, life is very simple. And those are the things that tend to be the most complicated for us. In the end, your the only one who's gotta live with your decisions. At worst, you'll have some crazy stories or die 🤷

Sorry if that was unhelpful

Something I took a long time to learn is "Don't borrow trouble." You'll run into plenty of problems throughout your life, so there's no need to expend energy on those that haven't happened yet. Yeah, I know that's easier said than done. :)

Remember that you are smart and capable. You can handle whatever life throws your way, and life has a funny habit of surprising us. What you're worried about often doesn't happen, but other surprises do come along, both good and bad. You can do your best to prepare, but the reality is that you'll face things you don't feel prepared for, and you'll be OK.

You may love the job, or you may hate it, but you will probably hate the fact that you gave up the opportunity if you don't go. Being apart may make you a stronger couple, or it may make one or both of you realize you want to move on. That could happen regardless of where you are, even if you stay physically together. You have a wonderful opportunity, and I encourage you to take it.

I will tell you what I imagine I'll be telling my son in 17 years.

Be your own greatest advocate. Nothing in this world is worth losing your dignity over. It is just a job, not an indication of your worth or value to others. Don't ever work so hard that you don't have time to enjoy life. Always stop to smell the flowers.

No matter which path you choose in life there will always be regret, going with one option means abandoning other options. Try to choose options which you think will leave you with least regret. The best thing we can do is to try our best.