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(WEEKLY) "The Cruelty Is The Point." (lemmy.ca)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Reminder: This post is from the Community Actual Discussion. You’re encouraged to use voting for elevating constructive, or lowering unproductive, posts and comments here. When disagreeing, replies detailing your views are appreciated. For other rules, please see this pinned thread. Thanks!

This weekly thread will focus on the phrase "The Cruelty Is The Point", which may take some explanation.

Frequently on Lemmy (and elsewhere), I see the phrase in comment threads. In my experience, it has been referencing any policy that is contrary to a Liberal or Leftist belief that the thread discusses. I have found the phrase when discussing trans issues, housing, taxes, healthcare, abortion, and many more.

This does not mean it doesn't exist elsewhere, it is simply where I see it since I spend much of my social media time on Lemmy. If your experience differs, please let us know!

Some Starters (and don’t feel you have to speak on all or any of them if you don’t care to):

Do you believe this? If so, why?
Is it true / false in some or all scenarios?
Is it with certain groups or regarding certain things?
Do you feel that speech like this is conducive to fixing societal issues?
Is what is considered "kind" always the best course of action?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I wanted to make sure I came back to this when I had the time in real life. For what I state, you should know that I was an extremely meek child and hardly a troublemaker.

When I lived in Saudi Arabia as a white 14-year old male. I was held at assault rifle point multiple times and robbed.
When I lived in Thailand at 15, I was sexually assaulted by a trans-woman.
When I lived in Cincinnati at 16, I was beaten by a group of African American kids I went to school with.
When I lived near Edmonton at 17, I was beaten by a teacher for missing my homework.
When I lived in Medicine Hat at 10, I was punched in the face by a teacher for sitting in the wrong spot.

None of these are made up or exaggerated experiences. Cruelty wasn't the point of any of these. The point was (in order) robbery, sexual gratification, power, power, and power.

Misassigning motive is harmful because it stops you from addressing the issues presented and assumes that people are "lost causes." I don't believe that to be the case. You can't fix something where the point is cruelty, because people can't get a fix of cruelty in other ways. You can try to repair other issues however.

We want the same outcome, but I want to find out how to get there without pushing people out of the solution.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

And again you missed entirely the elephant in the room that I've pointed out five times.

I'm out of here. Don't bring this fucking white boy "well akschually!" catnip topic into my mentions again, please.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I... Am kinda taken aback here and legit don't know what you're referring to. I could delete my posts if it would help?

I'm sorry if I pushed buttons I should not have, but I genuinely do not grasp the friction here and would very much like to. I was enjoying the discussion and was happy that a thread actually took off for us for once.

If this is a touchy subject that you would rather move on from, then we will.