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The things that always works for me is stop trying and just working towards being a person I would want to have in my life.
At some point you will find yourself in a relationship without really knowing how it happened.
Yes. my major complaint in life is that most of my dates want to date a man who is a better version of themselves, but don't want to do the work to be that person themselves. They just seem to think they can absorb qualities via dating a better person or something, it's bizarre.
basically most of my relationships ended because she refused to do the work to improve her life, and wanted me to do it for the both of us.